Ideally this is a question aimed at answers primarily from lurkers.

What do you look at? What do you think while lurking? And what keeps you from engaging?

Tbf I think I'd qualify as a semi lurker. I've posted here. But I'm not exactly active per say.

What do I look at? Anything that stands out tbh, preferably posts that are more at my age level (33) as opposed to posts by frustrated teens.

What do I think while lurking? I try NOT to get involved with posts below my maturity, not because I think I'm superior but simply because some struggles are age related and it is not for me to step in.

What keeps me from engaging? Again, maturity difference and priorities in life. I've already been through all of the queries young guys post here and they will have to find their own answers. My circumstances were and are different from many people here. Just because something worked for me doesn't mean it will be suitable to others.