Subject: The LSNFTE – Definition and Explanation
Author: Blackdragon

I realized that I use the term LSNFTE a lot, and I have defined it, but I have not made a definitive post about it that I can link to in the future. And the LSNFTE is a common enough item that it deserves one.

LSNFTE is something most women eventually do in non-monogamous relationships. It stands for Long Soft Next For Temporary Exclusivity. The vast majority of women I’ve been in an FB or MLTR relationship with has LSNFTE’d me, sometimes multiple times. And I’ve seen women do this to other poly or poly-ish men as well.

A LSNFTE is when a woman leaves you temporarily for an AFC / Provider guy who promises her the one thing you would never give her: Monogamy. Even if a woman’s attraction for you is at ultra high levels, even if a woman LOVES you, her obsolete caveman biological wiring and societal brainwashing eventually kicks her in the head, and often this coincides with some orbiter or AFC in her life promising that one Disney thing she can’t get from you. The intersection of these two things results an a LSNFTE.

The most important letter in LSNFTE is the letter T, which stands for Temporary. The nice thing about LSNFTE is that the woman will eventually come back to you. I believe my percentages of women coming back to me are around 82%. But they do come back. I have had women leave me, get boyfriends, have children with other men, move far away and come back, even MARRY other men, and then drop Mr. AFC and come back to me. Sometimes it’s within three months. Sometimes it’s over two years. But they come back.

The typical example works like this:

You’re dating a chick non-monogamously. You’re doing everything right, or at least most everything right (only seeing her once a week, making her cum every time, etc). She thinks you are the greatest most passionate man she’s ever met in her life (and she’s likely right). She thinks about you all the time and can’t get enough of you. But she wants monogamy. Maybe she states this and maybe she doesn't, but no matter how cool she is, she’s a Disney-brainwashed, soceitally-programmed woman just like all the rest. So she does.

You go for, say, 6 to 12 months of dating her like this, and soon her monogamy desires are white hot. Around this same time, she “suddenly” starts noticing one of her AFC friends/ex’s/orbiters/whatever, and he’s saying things to her like “If you dated me, I'd never fuck other women. I would love you. I’d be your boyfriend. I’d let you move in. I’d marry you and have your kids. I’d treat you like a queen. That BD» guy, he just wants to fuck you.”

And for some reason she can’t understand, these things, for the first time, start to make sense to her. So she drops your ass, and hooks up with Mr. AFC. And for a few weeks, she’s ultra happy. She finally has a monogamous, Disney BOYFREIND that her parents/friends/Facebook/coworkers (i.e. SOCIETY) will approve of! Yay!

But then a few weeks or months go by. And she realizes several things.

1. This guy is boring. You were exciting.

2. This guy is bad in bed. You made her cum every time. This guy doesn’t. You could last 20-30 minutes or more. This guy cums within four thrusts.

3. This guy is needy. Texts her 10,000 times a day about how much he loves her and misses her. Which is a huge turn-off to her. You never did anything like that.

4. This guy is full of drama. You never bitched, whined, complained and fought with her like he does.

5. This guy is jealous. Whenever he sees her communicating with another man, he gets pissed. You never did that.

Now that she sees a definite contrast, she starts fantasizing about how wonderful it was with you and how boring and lame it is with Mr. AFC.

Soon after realizing these things, one of the following 3 things occur:

1. Mr. AFC cheats on her. (Many times, all that Disney shit she gave her was a lie to begin with.)

or

2. Mr. AFC gets hyper-territorial and starts trying to rule her life with an iron fist.

or

3. Mr. AFC gets so fucking boring and/or needy she just can’t stand it.

So she dumps Mr. AFC (who of course is crushed beyond belief) and “cums” back to you.

As I said, sometimes this entire process takes 2 or 3 years to happen. Other times it happens very fast, as in 3 or 4 months, then boom, she's back in your bed. It varies based on the woman, her personality, and how “serious” she gets with Mr. AFC. I.E. if she actually moves in with the guy or marries the guy, it will take much longer than if she just starts dating him.

I’ve had this exact same situation play out with many, many, women. I now come to expect it and accept it. When a woman “leaves” me for some AFC, I don’t worry at all, since I know she’ll come back. And she always does. I just use the time to fuck other chicks. Once you view it that way, it’s kinda nice.

What you should NOT do is view a LSNFTE as some huge breakup, where you’ve lost her forever, and start analyzing what you did wrong, or why Mr. AFC is so appealing to her, and stressing out about the whole thing (which means you have some oneitis or a variation of it). Just LET HER GO and LEAVE HER ALONE with her new boring condition, and believe me, she’ll figure out her mistake on her own. Women are smart, and desire exciting, passionate, masculine men. In the long run, Mr. AFC doesn’t stand a chance…

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