Subject: LR : Cold Approaches in South Florida
Author: BradP

Here's my report on a week down in south Florida. Some if it I wrote during the week, the rest I'm writing right now on the plane to L.A., where I'll be from tues-thur this week. It's a long report, but it has a happy ending

I came down to Florida a few days ago to do some sarging outside my comfort zone and to do some teaching down here as well. When people found out I was coming I started to get emails about how southern Florida is so tough to sarge in, and Style and all these other gurus got shut down when they came down here. I'm thinking it can't possibly be as tough as NYC, and besides last time I was here I pulled on the first night.

Well actually it has been a tough area, but it was just what I needed right now for the adjustments I'm making to my game. The last few months I've been doing club game and social circle building. I hear it all the time in the community- people say "build your social circle," but then there's no method or instruction to go along with that advice. I'm not sure that advice is really helping anyone. So I spent a few months researching it and developing a method which I will release once I have written it up. I already gave 1 live talk on it and I'm doing another in LA.

Now I'm transitioning my game back to cold approaches. Back in NYC I have little motivation to do cold approaches. There's a bit of cold approaching involved in the club game I was doing, but nothing really substantial. I was getting lots of lays off the club social circle stuff, and I already had a stable of 5 FBs, so who the hell needs to go sarge a fucking bookstore when you could be home having sex....or in a bookstore having sex....

Now I'm out of my comfort zone, getting back into the cold approach game, back to getting # closes, back to doing day 2s. It's funny I thought it would be like it used to be back when I was learning, but it's almost like the social circle stuff has added a new dimension to my cold approach game.

You might wonder why the hell a guy with 5 FBs who's getting 15 minute lays from club game would leave town to do cold approaches in a strange town where he knows no one. Well, right now I'm feeling like it's essential for me to walk in the shoes of the people who are just learning. I want to feel the cold blast of blowouts again. It's been a while. I went from learning approach and all the basics to having quite a bit of success, to teaching, to designing a system for openers, to learning to retain as many as 10 girls at once, to learning 3somes, to club game, to social circle building....and now I want to revisit the cold approaches. My work on social circle is done. I'm curious how it's going to affect other part of my game.

So here's what I've been up to the last few days. First day of sarging in FL was the hardest. I went to this place Coyote Ugly in Ft. Lauderdale. They have these chicks dancing up on the bar just like in the movie, which kinds of puts every guy in the place into a beta frame. I kinda tried to ignore them, but it was hard cause they were fucking HOT! First set was this DJ chick from the local rock station. She didn't really blow me out, but she wasn't particularly nice to me either. So I moved on to the chicks who were handing out free lighters and crap. They kind of had to be nice, but it was totally fake and you could tell they're just doing their job. I try to talk to the dancing bartender HB10 on the bar but can't get her attention. When she's done I ask her "did we sleep together last week?" She laughs and walks away. There wasn't really a lot of people in the place, and this is why I ended up opening all the hired guns first. I see a hot chick down at the end with some guys. I decide to make some adjustments and I open the guys first. They don't even know her so it doesn't end up helping at all. I turn to her and ask directions to some place nearby. Good response off that. Turns out she is with a guy, it's just a different guy than I thought. The guy is this dorky older guy, and this chick is smoking hot. I get up close and she looks older, but still hot. She had the hugest breasteses. We started talking and she tells me she's 40. I rarely even talk to girls in their 30s, but this is the hottest 40 year old I've ever seen in my life. I talk to the guy too. I start teasing the girl. She's asking how tall I am, I tell her 5'9 even though I'm 6'5. I stand her up next to me and start some aggressive kino. She's totally turned on and BT is shooting through the roof. I could not believe it myself. She kissed me on the cheek and the neck a few times. I'm a little leery of the guy while all this is going on. Tonguing her down is not strategic here. It's too early in the set and I don't know the status of this guy. I'm all alone in this place with no one to back me up if things get hairy. Soon she gives me a big IOI telling me flat out that the guy is just her roommate. I tease her a little more, then I make a snap decision to try for a bathroom pull. The logistics are super bad with this guy here and this girl seems to know all the bartenders, who are absolute snotty bitches. So I do some perv testing on her. She fails. She is creeped out and I've blown the set out. This is an intentional blowout. If you want to make an omelette's, you gotta break some eggs. Staying in longer would have been probably a waste of time. It was a soft blowout, so I re initiate contact later and she is cool with talking to me. She invites me to see her at her bar where she bartends. I tell her maybe. After this set I approach a 4 set of tourists. The chicks are busted looking so I eject. It was just a set to stay social. I flirt with the "free lighter" chicks some more and they take a picture grabbing my ass. It was contrived and retarded. I pull one girl's hair really blatantly, which she doesn't take well to, but not a major problem. I flirt again with the radio DJ. This time it's a bit better cause I do some aggressive kino. But again I'm dealing with a girl whose ego is flying high cause she's kind of a local celebrity around here with the radio station and all. I leave that set as neutral. It didn't really hook, but I made my presence known and didn't do anything needy or stupid, which is probably better than most guys do. I decide this place is sarged out and I decide to go across the street. Out of all those sets only one really hooked.

First few lessons on Ft. Lauderdale. The tendency here seems to be that a lot of these girls are spring break leftovers who never left. Tons of girls are working as bartenders. Some are pretty old but you can tell they were insanely hot a few years ago. Even now they're like 8-9 in their 30s. I even saw women in their 40s with massive natural tits crazy tanned up spring break style. The young bartender chicks are crazy hot as well but they fly around the place at lightning speed making drinks. It's tough to get a word in edgewise. The bar industry is just massive here. So the chicks have seen it all. They are weathered and wise. These chicks have very strong frame and pretty tight game. They are very good at avoiding attraction and staying logical. They have a focus on their social agenda. The moment attraction takes a dip they immediately try to invite you to see them at the bar they work at, converting you into an orbiter. This happened several times throughout the night.

Next place I walk in and do horsegirl on 2 blondes at the bar. It hooked them pretty decent. I don't know why the hell I didn't just do horse girl before. They think I'm funny, but I can tell they're thinking I'm a little weird too. One of them says "So where are you off to all gothed out." Mental note- I need to take my look down a notch or 2. This isn't NYC. The chicks aren't used to seeing a guy like me just walking around talking to people. I manage to get through that and win them over. The friend leaves me alone with the target and says "help yourself" and points to her. Wow that's a new experience! We're shooting the shit. The girl just came off a bad breakup so I'm thinking this is either great cause she needs revenge, or this is bad cause she's hung up on the guy. Turns out she was hung up, just got dumped, and she's not in slut mode yet. She's just in depressed mode. I give her a bit of sound relationship advice just to pass the time. We skip to other topics. I'm getting really good kino off this girl. The set is going better than anything else had been going that night. In comes another friend. I'm vibing with them etc. Surprise, my target girl is a bartender! I look behind me and the hot 40yo is sitting a few seats away watching intently. I've kind of lost interest in her, I could have used her as a pawn somehow, but I decided o wait and see if it's going to be strategic to do that. I just told the other three "check out my stalker over there." In the bathroom they all run into each other, and HB40yo gets all weird on the 2 friends of my target. She starts bragging "How old do you think I am?....I'm 40 and I don't have a stitch of makeup on, etc." Probably trying to raise her ego back up since I didn't try to go talk to her. The 2 girls were telling me how weird she is, so I decided that flirting with her in front of my target would look too low value in this instance.

I end up telling her that I know all these advanced sexual techniques. One of the friends is a some kind of a marriage therapist so she starts testing me like crazy. We talk about the deepspot, the gspot, etc. Wow the mainstream educated people really don't know shit. She's trying to DHV on me by telling me about studies that show the G spot doesn't exist because there are "no neurons inside the vagina." I tell her it's really more about skene glands, but she doesn't really want to hear it. She's saying how I can get arrested for doing a class like I do without being certified, which is BS. Anyway, the chicks end up leaving and I can't get a # close out of this chick. She is totally negative and depressed cause of being dumped. She invites me to come see her at the bar she works at. I tell her "I'm not gonna chase you around like a dork." Orbiter invitation #2.

I do one more set before I leave. I do a really bad situational opener and the girls blow me out instantly. I stay and plow for a minute, but then i just gotta laugh this one off as my worst set EVER!

OK so far I'm finding that the girls in Ft. Lauderdale generally are not fun. They don't really laugh much. They don't like to joke around or flirt as much as other chicks. There's this grim sense of purpose about them, I can't put my finger on it really. It's like they go out to bars not to have fun, but to do some kind of a job. They really seem like they're at work.