“Did you know the average male thinks about sex 137 times a day?”
“Who farted?”
“Bonjour.”
“Hi.”
“I’m a banana.”
“Hey look at that!” Point randomly at a spot on the wall.
“Would you quit staring at me, I’m not going to make out with you.”
“I’m wearing tighty whities, what do you think of that?”
“Should a guy kiss his girl at the beginning or end of the first date?”
“This place is full of weirdo’s.” Good for hipster clubs.
“Are you in Metallica?”
“Heeyyy!!! Long time no see!” They usually feel like morons for not remembering you. I use this a lot.
“Hey. My friend and I were just discussing whether or not you two would be rude to me if I came over to say hello.” They both smile. I pull back my jacket to reveal a bright yellow shirt that says “Talk nerdy to me.”
“Remember that time!? That time!? That time in XYZ?” Fill in the blank with, “when we made out,” “In Vietnam, in the shit,” or just about anything that comes to mind.

Some people say you should, “think before you open your mouth.” For me, in pick up, this is a false statement. When I approach I don’t think. I clear my mind, and just spit out whatever comes through the ether.

Once you’re excellent at opening you’ll realize that unless you’re looking for a specific emotional reaction, what you say doesn’t matter. If you say, “fuck you, you ugly fat bitch,” the reaction will likely be a large boyfriend kicking your rude little pua ass. But if you say this with a huge smile to a high self esteem girl, she might love you. You won’t know until you try. Amuse yourself. (BTW I’ve never field tested that opener.)

Opening is probably the easiest part of the game. Many guys are so worried about taking that first leap and approaching a group of strangers that they end up running circles in their mind and psyching themselves out.

I don’t really feel approach anxiety anymore. To me, approaching a stranger at a party or a bar is the same as asking someone to pass the ketchup. What’s the result of asking someone to pass the Ketchup? Either they do, or they don’t.

The fear that you feel, the uncertainty of introducing yourself…it will evaporate. Here’s the one true solution for overcoming approach anxiety: Repeated Exposure.

Opening is my favourite part of the interaction. In the last two years, I’ve approached and opened hundreds, maybe a thousand sets. I’ve had every kind of reaction you can imagine from Instant attraction, to outright anger. Yes, while learning to calibrate, you will creep some people out. It’s because you’re thinking too much. Once you get opening down, the rest of the game becomes that much easier.

Sometimes a bad reaction has nothing at all to do with you; sometimes that person has their own issues they’re dealing with. The key is to take every interaction with a grain of salt. Good or bad, look at every approach as a positive learning experience.

“But I just don’t know what to say!”

Everybody has their own game, their own creativity. If you need to use canned lines, so be it. You will develop your own over time. I prefer to function in the moment. For me, every opener is a test of that person’s personality. Are they going to be down for an interaction? I don’t look at it like, “what if I fail?” Reframe it to, “are these people social?” I can usually tell within thirty seconds who’s down.

I like to say completely random and weird stuff. Yes, sometimes women will think that I’m weird and tell me so, but I don’t care. I used to get really wigged out after a bad interaction; but following 99 more approaches, not so much; it becomes a congruent part of your personality to talk to strangers.

When you approach a girl, or a group, don’t think so much about what to say, and don’t be outcome dependent. Just say whatever the hell you feel like. If they freak out and turn their backs to you, deal with that in your own way. The trick to overcoming approach anxiety is to, “open as many sets as possible, as often as possible.”

I rarely get sets that don’t stick. I would say out of every ten interactions, nine go incredibly well. This is what allows me to stay calm, confident and focused. It took me two years to get here, but the fact that it’s possible to re-wire your internal being to a desired outcome is a great feat.

Understand, that the reason you can say anything to anyone at anytime is because people are not universal. They have all had unique life experiences and some things that will elate and intrigue one person will anger and annoy another. The only rule is there are no rules.

Eventually you’ll develop a sort of sixth sense for what and what not to say. My best advice is say whatever you want, and if they aren’t down…to hell with them.

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