I’ll be honest, I really MISS foreplay, confiding in someone about fantasies, making out, texting things that make us secretly grin inside, butterflies, that static-electric charge of connecting not just physically, but mentally with our brains.

I am 51, handsome, nice smile, very fit and trim, professional, educated and articulate. 5-9, 164 lbs. You are 30 , attractive, fit and trim body style in a professional career and feel as frustrated as I do. Outwardly you appear like a responsible, demure wife and mom, but inside you are so sexually frustrated you want to scream.

I need a secret partner who is like me, you need a secret partner who is like you... craves to talk about fantasies and use that to turn us both on, have the freedom and the judgement-free zone to confess anything because frankly, our spouses don’t let us or would hold it against us or view us a little different.

I’m in a marriage where sex has dwindled to once per month, in the same fashion, in the same bedroom, in the same way, same, same, same. My spouse has never known or tried the art of sexting, or being naughty, or just open to trying new things, doing the things that turns her man on. Even after explicitly talking about it, she just says “no, not gonna do any of that so get used it.” Well after 7 years together, I cannot stand it anymore.

Are you my female counterpart

But almost more important to me than the physical sex, is having someone to mentally connect with on a naughty level. Who understands me, and I understand them, and it’s OK for us to expose our real selves to each other. After 7 years, my wife hasn’t, nor will not, tell me any of her fantasies. She is incapable of talking about sex or foreplay without it turning into a fight.

I miss the excitement, I miss that daring spirit, sharing a private sense of taboo that we could both have by talking, AND trying new things together. I really miss the sense of ease and flow of a dirty conversation between me and my partner.

Are you a medical professional? Legal professional? Realtor, white collar executive, etc. Being able to connect with a lovely professional woman like this to help each other fulfill not just our physical needs, but emotional is what I have been craving for almost 2 years.

I think you’ll find that I am extremely easy to talk to, I am a complete giver in all ways, I am very open minded and will never judge your situation or the reason for your unmet needs.

I AM for real, and I encourage you to finally do something to help your frustration. Let’s find each other and begin a new chapter of fun in our lives. We deserve it.