My wife with pmdd has approached me with a serious concern that it is me now that has a "mood disorder" associated with her cycle/period and that she does NOT have a condition like PMDD. I asked if this would be a biological, or maybe psychiatric disorder or condition and she thought maybe "no".

I asked if maybe she read somewhere it could be a hormonal or chemical imbalance - "no".

What is it then? I said "maybe you think it's based on not having sex and maybe childish resentful behavior"? - no, that's not it.

She said she notices it when she "becomes unavailable".

I said what it sounds like you're describing is codependent behavior. She seemed to agree with that.

I ended with the possibility that maybe I DO change and react to the criticism, judgement, negativity, hopelessness, stress, violent discussions, and name calling that happen around the time she "becomes unavailable " and maybe I do need some therapy for that.

So that's the latest. We are now regressing to undiagnosis stage for my wife. I need to schedule an appointment with my Gyno.