I've cross posted as I guess this is valid for PMDD partners too. Is anyone here polyam? Up until last year there was less of an imbalance but I currently only have 1 partner VS the 3.5 that he has. We have a healthy, long term relationship bar when I am in hell week (which I am right now), this has historically caused problems. I often push him away during this time in order to protect him. This is counterproductive when I need support the most and right now I am incredibly low and feeling without hope.

We are no different to any other couple but there are obviously time and attention constraints on his side which can feel very confusing, especially if I am in crisis because unless we are face to face, he's not someone I can reach out to. I spend a lot of time wondering how much help I can really ask for and whether showing this vulnerability will ruin our relationship.

TDLR; polyam pmdd couples, what's reasonable/ unreasonable amount of support in this situation?