I wanted to share what is currently blowing my mind as I KNOW I'm not the only one of us that needs to be more assertive with a partner with PMDD. I have a good streak of "people pleasing" that I struggle to overcome and this book is teaching me some serious skills.

If you dont think it's for you, at least FF to the chapter on how to deal with manipulative criticism!! Or at least look up the technique called "fogging".

Manipulation is my partners mode of communication and getting what she wants. I notice it more during luteal, and thats when all of her manipulative criticism starts getting focused at mostly me (sometimes the kids). I am learning just how destructive it's been to my self esteem and my ability to cope with it. I have even noticed it's making me behave manipulatively and it is what pushes me to create "covert contracts" (addressed in other books). I dont like it, but I am willing to build the counter programming to see if it is something I can live with.

I am becoming the fog!