Well, I knew tracking doesn't make anything go away and I knew we were getting close on the first month I've tracked in real time day for day this month, but I didn't expect the timing to be so accurate.

My wife's cycle is about 29 days, and I knew day 19-20 was when I need to be alert, be aware, try to have my head on a swivel and not step in a verbal snare.

Little innocent conversations is how my wife likes to start with something bothering her. She's not forward when she speaks and has a hard time thinking SHE needs to walk on eggshells, almost around herself because she's worried about starting a fight. So it's hard to get what she wants out of what she's saying.

It was 5 mins before I was due home from work to start making dinner (my night, twice a week) and she text me when I would be home, the kids were starving. She asked me if I saw her text when I walked in the door. I apologize, say no I was focused on getting home to make dinner. She asked me if I was going to make dish "a, b, or c"... I said dish "a" and she continues to comment on the different times the dishes take to make, how hungry the kids are, etc.

I ask her if she had a motive to text me 5 mins before I was due home (since I didn't read it yet) and what the feelings were when she text me. She doesn't usually do that and I knew what she was feeling, but I wanted her to verbalize it. She said "no, felt fine everything is great, thanks for making dinner on a weeknight".

I continue to prepare dinner and she continues to beat around the Bush about her feelings and I just point blank asked her if she would like me to make mac and cheese and a salad in 10 mins flat. She said yes, that's what she wanted and I asked her why she didn't just say that when I asked her what she was feeling.

She wanted to start digging a huge rabbit hole I usually fall down into head first, but I kept it at that. "I feel confused when you dont say how you feel and what you want, I need you to be upfront and honest with me, please". Period.

I stated I didn't want a long drawn out argument on the depressed state of things. I was done and moving on.

She finally came around and started clearly "I feel nervous the kids are hungry and I would like something quick and easy". I praised her and thanked her for understanding and went about making dinner.

5 mins later my calendar reminder alerted me that it was day 20.

She was her typical tired, non physical, non intimate luteal phase self when we got ready for bed and I was just concerned that she get as much sleep as possible since that seems to help. Mind you, we've had sex everyday at least once for the last 7 days, no stressful talks, or quibbles, or fights. Just love. I didn't initiate anything and I didn't expect her to last night.

Now this morning, I'm trying to prepare myself for the next 2 weeks and I'm actually feeling like venting on the insane sacrifice it is to be with someone like this.

I had a window for 2 weeks to have sex with my wife. The first week we were working on being close again after the last series of fights, so we only really had a one week window. That's 25-50% of your life with a viable window to seduce and sleep with your wife.

Is it really like this? I get real feelings of missing out on life when I realize there are probably wives out there in the world that are intimate with their husbands and want to have sex with them any week of the month, all year long. It makes me wonder why she doesn't notice more and want to take more proactive measures to address PMDD too.

I appreciate tracking it and "knowing" what might be coming, i think it helps... but the reality of the amount of time you really dont have a chance in hell is sobering.