For context: Mid 30’s solo male here interested in becoming a part of the swinging community. Three main questions really.

1. What is the best way / place to meet other swingers or people in the life style? Meeting likeminded people seems like a huge hurdle when starting out. A side note to this is I am also interested in potentially dating a woman in the lifestyle and this would also seem like a good place to meet single women in or open to the lifestyle that also might be open to dating(almost all the women Iv dated or know are not)

2. What are good to know things about being a solo male trying to enter the lifestyle? I know solo women are in high demand as well as most couples so dipping my toes in as a solo male seems daunting. Ideally would have like to have tried this as a couple but the women Iv dated have no interest in the lifestyle. Secondly, I DO NOT want to come off as creepy or desperate. Neither are the case but it seems to be a fine line as a solo male trying to enter the community.

3. What kind of privacy should be expected in the community? I have a good career and active social lifestyle that I’d prefer to keep separate. Don’t really want everyone knowing that side of my life if that makes sense.