I've had an anal kink since puberty, before I ever saw the porn. I didn't understand it and I don't know where it came from, but even though I love all kinds of sex, I like butt stuff the most. And it's not just fucking, though that's fantastic. I love touching your butt throughout the day, reaching down your pants in public when we could almost get caught, pulling your underwear to the side when we're watching TV and going down on your asshole, making jokes, teasing your ass when I'm in your pussy. I've met the occasional woman who just LOVES anal attention like that, so I know you're out there. And I think if we connect we could make each other very happy.

About me. I'm married (poly/ENM), and happily so. My wife (who likes butt stuff to a point) has a BF, but I've had only casual relationships. I want to change that. I'm very tall, handsome according to most people's tastes, a father (I raise the kid while my wife works). I'm well read and educated. I studied piano for years, played in bands, and am still obsessed with music today. I'm an ex-evangelical. I very occasionally love psychedelic drugs for the way they make me think and imagine and learn. I have ADHD. I'm in therapy to try to deal with childhood trauma and to be a better partner. I live by the beach and have a large food forest. I'm genuinely eccentric. A friend once called me the happiest sad person in the world.

So while I do want anal sex and butt play to be the center of our sex life and intimacy, I want to do that with a woman who connects to the bigger portion of my soul, which involves all of the stuff in that second paragraph. I think I could have such a relationship with anyone 24ish to 45ish, and I would travel to invest in such a relationship. I don't care about experience. If you're an anal virgin, I'll train you and love every minute of it. If you're well experienced, I'll jump right in and help you increase your pleasure. I know it's a big ask to say "let's make a long term relationship out of this" so know that I'm also open to something much more casual, but if it's good I would always be willing to make it more serious. Anyway, I hope you're out there. HMU in chat if you want to talk about it. I'm very serious and available.