Hi there! If you follow this subreddit, you have probably seen that I posted quite a lot lastly about a 7 (originally 5) days denial period which ended yesterday 😁 It was quite an adventure for me as it was the first time I tried to deny myself for so long!

In this post, I would like to reflect on this experience and share some things that I have learned. I think it might particularly interest beginners who want to try orgasm denial 😉

1) Orgasm denial is physically exhausting

When I was planning my orgasm denial period, I thought the main challenge would be to mentally resist my urges. In other words, I thought the struggle would be only psychological and that it would be only a matter of willpower to hold. While this was partly true (it did take willpower and without it I would have given up very early), I realized that denial also has physical effects which adds up to the mental struggle 😅

In particular, I experienced for the first time "blue balls" and I was surprised by how painful it can be 😅 I mean, it was not horribly painful, but it was still painful enough for me to feel like something I had to endure. Each time I stood up, I felt pain in my groin, and at each step I took I could feel the pain in my balls when it touched my pants. Because of this, I was close to giving up not because I wanted to feel the pleasure of an orgasm but rather to ease all of this pain 😅 However on the bright side, I have to admit that I loved the feeling of having huge balls 😁 Also, the pain in my groin disappeared this week-end which was a relief 🙂 So I don't know, maybe after some time these effects would have disappeared.

I also lost partly my appetite and found it more difficult to sleep. These things are not a big deal at the scale of 1 or 2 days (as I did in the past), but after 7 days like this, I was quite happy to get good sleep last night and eat normally today!

I am not saying that it was not worth it, but I have to acknowledge that orgasm denial is physically challenging and because of this I don't think I would have been able to handle a longer period 😅 If some of you have advice to limit these effects, I am interested!

2) Orgasm denial makes you think about sex constantly

This is both a good and a bad thing. Good because there is nothing like the feeling of horniness and the frustration associated to edging while knowing you can't cum yet 😜 It was funny how horny I was feeling in all situations, how I would pay attention to some words like "come" in daily conversations, and how I would be impatient to get more occasions to edge 😁

However, it was also bad because as a consequence it was more difficult to concentrate on anything not sex related, like my work or any of my hobbies 😅 I managed to do all the things I had to do but I was less efficient, and I did less things that I would have otherwise because a significant part of my free time was dedicated to edging.

I think that doing this for 1 week was not bad. I mean, it is OK to occasionally allocate 1 week of my life to sex just for the experience, and it was really exciting! But I don't think I could do this for longer because, well, I would not have any life then 😅 Maybe it is my lack of experience but I wish I could find a better balance between sex and the other aspects of my life during denial. Again, as for the previous point, if you have advice about this I am interested!

3) Orgasm denial is the best when other people are involved

As I live alone and I am not engaged in any sexual or romantic relationship (for now at least), if I decide to deny my orgasm, I am on my own. The two main consequences of this are:

• It is boring and less engaging
• It is challenging to stay motivated

I found that I got the most fun and excitement out of denial when I was interacting with people here on Reddit, and this is why I posted so much recently on this subreddit but also on r/FapDeciders to get suggestions and let people decide some things for me 😁

Any task or rule proposed by someone else felt vastly more engaging and exciting than my own, just because they reinforced my feeling of submission! I was hooked on my notifications, even upvotes were exciting and encouraging 🙂 And when at some point I was about to give up, it was thanks to several comments that I found the strength to keep going.

I am really grateful to all the people who interacted with my polls and posts! In particular, I would like to thank u/Aggro-Exhaustion for his encouragements and his suggestion to extend my period (without you I don't think I would have dared to go for so long) and u/Naughtykitty6996 for encouraging me and her advice to edge a lot at the end 😁

As a conclusion, I discovered how important it is for me to interact with people to feel more engaged and so I think that in the future I would like to find a partner. It could be a dom ready to give me tasks and help me enforcing rules, or it could be another person in denial (I think it might be fun to encourage ourselves mutually and give ourselves tasks 😁). If you are interested, feel free to DM me 😉

Conclusion

Overall, it was fun and interesting to deny my orgasms for a week! I didn't think I was able to do this and I am kind of proud for having succeeded 🙂 However, I don't think it is something I could do for very long periods. I definitely need a break for now but I might try this again in the future, so don't be surprised if you see me again there 😜