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Oregon Swingers, weāve read pretty much everything here about Privata in addition to misc other stuff around the interwebs. Still weāre wondering if itās a place for us. We are upper 30s. Been married for nearly 17 years. Not hard bodies, but fit and not overweight. Sex positive, but in some ways still shedding the remnants of an orthodox religious upbringing. Monogamous but have an exhibitionist side. (E.g. we enjoy nude beaches, naked bike ride, nature sex, Portland erotic ball, etc.) We like going to dance clubs but often feel a bit older than the rest of the crowd and different in the sense that we are already coupled (not part of the meet/meat market). We also would like to be āfriskierā on the dance floor but mostly abstain, as overt sexuality is a little frowned upon outside twerking, grinding, etc. Privata is intriguing as it seems we could let loose and act on our sexier impulses. Socializing with other sexy, sex positive couples also sounds fun, but we donāt want to annoy other couples if they are there to swap and not interested in chatting with fairly vanilla folks like us if it isnāt going to end in a swap. I think weāre both also curious (but also mildly concerned) about what it might be like to be within armās distance of another couple or couples getting their fuck on, especially if itās something of a kinkier nature (BDSM, orgy, etc.) While we feel like we enjoy exhibitionism, we also wonder how weād feel being watched by single (possibly creepy) men if we did decide to get sexy in a visible space. We really like Collins and Rooster but really donāt love the presence of creepy lurking men in the bushes or prancing around with their testicle weights and cock rings! I know there are couples only nights at Privata, but they are infrequent. Weāre thinking about going this Saturday to Little Black Dressā¦
Your thoughts? Will we fit in or will we leave traumatized after 15 minutes, down $100 ? (lol)
Oh, one more thingā¦ we know thereās porn playing on TVs around the clubā¦ what āgenreā of porn is it? Like, more sensual or more hardcore?
From your write-up, it sounds perfect for you.
... upper 30's
Mid- 30's to early-50's is the median age range at Privata
Not hard bodies, but fit and not overweight.
Privata has all body types but definitely leans to the fitter crowd. But you will see all represented.
We also would like to be āfriskierā on the dance floor
You can do anything (with some exceptions) on the dance floor at all clubs.
.. we donāt want to annoy other couples if they are there to swap and not interested in chatting with fairly vanilla folks like us
I'd venture to guess that the majority at Privata are there just to be voyeurs and exhibitionists. Just be upfront and no one will think negatively of you. Just think of it as a way to meet friendly, like-minded folks.
I think weāre both also curious (but also mildly concerned) about what it might be like to be within armās distance of another couple or couples getting their fuck on
There are private rooms, open rooms, an orgy bed, and everything in between. Participating is never mandatory and everyone knows this.
... especially if itās something of a kinkier nature (BDSM, orgy, etc.)
Unless it's a kink or bdsm themed night, it's unlikely you'll run into this
... how weād feel being watched by single (possibly creepy) men if we did decide to get sexy in a visible space.
There are couples-only areas and 'escaping' single guys is not too difficult.
Weāre thinking about going this Saturday to Little Black Dressā¦
Pro-tip: themed nights will tell what the majority of the crowd will be like. I wrote more on this on the stickied post (read it if you haven't).
Your thoughts?
Get there early and take the tour. You'll love it.
Oh, one more thingā¦ we know thereās porn playing on TVs around the clubā¦ what āgenreā of porn is it? Like, more sensual or more hardcore?
Hardcore, professional studio stuff, but it's really in the background.
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