My husband and I have been swingers for a while now, circa 2011, and recently we started looking to explore some other sexy areas like ropes, D/S, kind of stuff. We've actually been pretty vanilla outside of non-monogamy so this is all still kind of new to us but better late than never right? Lol.
As we look around, we keep reading that there's a large presence on swingers on FetLife so we joined. We've come to miss the lifestyle community that used to be here so when we saw others say that there is a real sense of community there for swingers, we joined.
But here lies the problem, we can't find anything or anyone. We were told by a guy who knew a couple who was friends with another couple that some other couple ran some secret groups that would interest us, but no matter who we asked, where we turned, what dark and disturbing profile or group we clicked on, nada. Nothing. Just groups and groups dominated by single men with the rare swinger couple that were not what we were looking for. Actually, just finding a sexy couple there seems to be pretty sparse but we're hoping that they are all just holed up in these private groups hiding from all the hordes of orcs with dick pic profile pics.
So I guess we're left wondering if we just wasted the few dollars and time it cost to get verified there (it wasn't much) to go on some goose chase and get duped by a bunch of single guys - who btw will absolutely DM and friend request you every time you pop your head up there. Or do these private groups really exist?
Should we continue with FetLife and if so, how do we navigate it to find the lifestyle community and one that isn't just a bunch of guys? Thanks guys! And once I can figure out how to upload a pic I'll share a hump day pic with you.
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