Hello Couples and Single women of Oregon and surrounding areas!
Keep reading this to find out what you need to do to join.
What is this about?
There are two complaints with r/OregonSwingers that dominate here. The first being spam and the second being the obnoxious and disrespectful single men; we hear you and we want to try to help. We remove 20-30 spammers A DAY between this sub and the other two main Oregon subs that we mod. A. DAY. Add the creepy single/solo guys creeping in on DMs, posting their dick pics, and trying to creep in on your posts and comments and it can get a little frustrating at times for everyone here... It really is a, for every good single/solo guy out there, there are thousand 'sliding into your DMs' kind of place. We hear you.
The best solutions to these problems is through a private subreddit; al la, r/Oregon_Swingers.
A private sub? How does that work?
A private sub looks to you, the approved user, just like any other sub. It shows up the same in your feed (* see the NOTE below) and by every aspect, is the same to you and the other approved users.
(NOTE: We were recently made aware that Reddit does NOT automatically make it so you follow a sub once you are approved as a user. Once you are in, in order to see these posts in your feed/main page, you will need to hit the JOIN button.)
So, can others see what I post and comment in this private sub?
If they are NOT part of this private sub (approved user by the mod team), they will NOT be able to see your activity there. (Barring shared screenshots, of course, so keep this in mind). If you post or comment in this private sub, and a non-approved Reddit user looks at your user history, they will NOT see anything you have done in this private sub. Private means private from non-approved users.
What is the content of this sub?
That's up to you, really. Discussions, reviews, rants and raves, connections, really anything within the world of non-monogamy. If things get out of hand and reports are filed, we'll address them but it's mostly just a place for like-minded couples and single/solo woman to engage in. Want to talk about your last visit to Privata? Or maybe what you thought of TVR? Or perhaps you don't really want to join Kasidie but you do want to meet like-minded couples? Or you want to plan an event? All is good with us. It's your space.
Who can join.
1) Couples, where least one of you is a cis-woman.
2) Single/solo cis-women.
If you are not part of one of these two categories, please see (A) below in "Further Reading" for more.
Special notes and rules
No Content Creators. Please see (B) below in "Further Reading" for more.
No two dudes pretending to be a couple. Mark my words, it'll happen it did, a few times now...
No M4 posts. No hothusbands, no 'my wife is outta town', etc. Use an appropriate sub for this.
How do we/I get verified. READ
1) Follow THIS GUIDE (<--this is a link, follow it and the instructions) taken from r/gonewild. If you are a couple, BOTH of you need to be in the pictures TOGETHER - this is key.
This needs to be (1) both of you in the pictures together and (2) holding the sign on wrinkled paper with your username on it.
We don't care about seeing your genitals but we do need to verify that you are not a "penis owner" faking it to get in. If you send G-rated pics, and honestly that is fine with us, know that we may ask for some clarification. Don't take it personal, just know that we are being thorough on your behalf.
2) After you have your pics taken and are ready to share, you have a few options (we don't have a preference so all are equally good for us):
A) Make a "verification" post here on r/OregonSwingers with these pictures.
B) Send a DM ("chat") to either u/Auto_Perv_Mod or u/Mr_Secret_Name with your pictures (both have notifications turned off so please be patient with reply times). You can send a note to the mod team and we'll poke the one you sent it to for a faster reply. NOTE: We don't share these with anyone, not even other mods.
C) Make a post to your profile then send a link to the mod team for us to go look there. When you get approved, you can delete the post and only those who came to your profile in that time period will see it.
D) Make a post (private or public) on Imgur and send us the link. When you get approved, you can delete the post. If you make it private, only those with the link can see this - and we don't share links.
Any of these will work. Choose what you're able to do and comfortable with.
Further reading.
A Why are only Couples with at least one cis-woman and single cis-women allowed in?
First, to our trans friends: there is a subreddit just for you, r/OregonTransGoneWild - we have nothing to do with this sub but it's there for you and we encourage you to help build it!
No matter what we do we're either going to get chided by the swingers (majority and for who this sub is literally named for...) or called all sorts of neat-o names by everyone else. There is absolutely no way to appease everyone. This is the demand from the majority of swingers so this is how we are setting it up. If you don't like this, please, we implore you, start a new subreddit! We will help you as we did with the trans sub and we will help steer users that are looking for whatever it is that you can offer them to you. Please do, too! We need a subreddit (with active mods!) that accommodates these groups better.
B If your profile has you advertising your content, anywhere, you will not be allowed in. There are other areas on Reddit and beyond that cater to you and we encourage you to use them. If you get in, then start up a content creators page (OF/Snap/Fansly/whatever.), you will be removed and banned from our other subs. If someone shows us proof where you are trying to get others for the purpose of creating content, you will be removed. Again, there are plenty of other places for you to go, please use them. The majority (99.999%?) of swingers want nothing to do with your OF account and they are not shy in telling us this.
C We are really busy here and in our personal lives so we may not get to everyone's verification quickly. Please be patient.
D There is a 'required reading' once you are in. Please read it and follow the directions. We'll all know if you did or didn't.
E "But we have a long history here, can't you just verify us automatically?"
No. Like I said in "C", we are all volunteers with personal lives that keep us fairly busy as is, we aren't going to go through histories here. If you want in, submit your verification posts/chat/PM. Also, there are already a good number of couples just sending us pictures without their usernames, dates, subreddit, etc. We have no way of knowing if you are real or if you are getting these pictures off the internet.
And think about it this way; the more stringent we are, the more you can be assured of the couples/women you are interacting with in there. Everyone is verified the same way.
F "But my wife is out of town this week, can I get us verified now and get her in later?"
No. Both of you, together.
G The more you put into this, the more you will get out of it. Get verified, engage, tell your friends that qualify to join and are willing to get verified to apply.
Lastly, and to reiterate two points from above:
E: If you just send is pictures that are NOT verification pictures as laid out above, we're just ignoring these.
F: BOTH of you in the picture. We 100% don't care if your wife will post later. Both or no entry.
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