Would you help point us in the right direction? Where have you successfully found bisexual / pansexual couples and open-minded groups? Our Situation: We are a m/f couple; both of us are bisexual / pansexual; live in Seattle / Tacoma. She is new to this. I have some very positive 'Lifestyle' experiences as a single guy and with with female play-date partners (at a local club and hosting a house party in another city, Denver). In LS, I've had only heterosexual experiences; a cocktail of self-denial, fear of 'spoiling it', and reaction to some explicit and culturally implied male (esp bi-male) homophobia. We both find hatred, fear, and toxic masculinity to be the opposite of arousing. Importantly, particularly for early experiences, we want to lower social pressures. We both prefer early experiences to be in a group of more than one other couple. Where do we look to find and be found?