So just had to share this as recent events have made me (the Mr) realize some things about ...well I guess me and my wife.

I had always hid and lied to myself about being bi until my wife and I started the LS - our first date was a bi male for a MMF. Several lessons learned was that first the Mrs was extremely turned on by MM play and second my programed fears about her thinking less of me were just BS.

All that said I still always referred to my playing bi and enjoying sexual fun with a man as my freaky, twisted or "broken" side of me. I never really thought of that terminology until the other day. I mentioned to my wife I was craving some play on my "twisted and broken" side of me. Her response set me back and taught me something about me and about us.

My wife plainly said "You need to stop referring to your desires as "twisted or broken" and let them be what they are - it is sexual desire and you deserve it and it's not twisted or broken or "freaky".

It was just a short sentence but it set me back and made me feel several things - new depth in the love I have for my wife, new understanding in who & what my sexual self is and how deep social norms were set in me to think that me being me was somehow broken, twisted or sill wrong.

Thank you to my wife, my friends and the LS for helping me finally be me. I don't mean this as a magic bullet or some kind of sage advice for people but really just wanted to share this small glimpse into me and us with folks who may be wrestling with emotions or fear of stigmas like i know I did some years ago and only recently realized that in some way I still was.