Almost a year ago, my wife and I have been talking about exploring the lifestyle. We have been really open about discussing what we like and don’t like with each other. We’ve also watched a lot of episodes of Swing together and are really enjoying that show. We live in a rural community and have two young children and due to these and other circumstances, we haven’t yet been able to explore any sort of LS events.

A shared fantasy that has come up is an MFM threesome. I am finding myself really turned on by thinking that if we were to try DP that our dicks might be rubbing against each other. I’m also really turned by thinking that I might guide grab another guys cock and guide it into my wife or his wife. Another hot scenario is thinking that I might be fucking my/his wife and he is 69 ing her at the same time and might lick my shaft. I also think it would be hot to switch places and be the one licking both the guy and girl.

I’m not turned on by thinking that the other guy and I would necessarily pair up just the two of us for either oral or penetrative sex. I also don’t want to be in a situation where I wasn’t comfortable giving what I am receiving. For example, if a guy was to give me a blow job while in group play, I’m not turned on about the idea of reciprocating and would feel guilty about it.

I know these are some pretty specific scenarios. I’m a bit confused/surprised by these thoughts. I have shared some of these with my wife, but I have no one other to talk about this with as we have yet to meet anyone in the LS.

Thank you for this sub reddit and giving people an open place to talk about this kind of thing.