Hi there!

I'm the F in our MF relationship and I'm looking for advice on how to get past the social anxiety of setting up a dating profile on a platform like Feeld, or even simply posting about ourselves on reddit.

We're both keen to try swinging at some point, and both bi curious. We've decided finding a male partner first would be best, I'm used to a man, and my partner is very keen to explore another guy too, so we have a plan...but no action, thanks to me!

I admit we had a rocky start in relation to reddit, with a couple bad encounters (photo fishers) that have left me uncomfortable sharing such vulnerable photos of ourselves. But that hasn't spoiled the mood for me.

We both work, have a family, the usual, and I'm otrationally anxious that somehow our eXXXtra curricular activities will become known in our area, and have a negative impact on our day to day lives. I know deep down that the Internet is a huge place and nobody is actively LOOKING to see if we're swinging or adding a 3rd, and I know that anyone on an app like Feeld is looking for the same thing as us. But for some reason I just can't get over the prudish hump of anxiety that will let us go ahead and start moving forward with the lifestyle.

Like most people, I have some confidence issues and am self conscious about my body, despite knowing it drives my partner wild, and I'm sure he's not the only person on the planet that would also love it.

So here I am, nervous about my appearance, nervous about weirdos, and nervous that some how, little old Doris from two doors down is going to find us on a swinging site and tell the whole town that we're Devil Penis worshiping heathens who aren't fit to engage in "regular" society. And just because she's right, doesn't mean I want the whole world knowing about it. But none of that changes the fact that I'm also determined to share a cock with my partner and see how much oil it takes to cover two men exactly to my liking!

So how do I get over that feeling? Did any of you feel this way? And once you got past it and joined the tie died swirl of bisexual swinging, how did it go?

Much love to you all, and thanks in advance for your tales of self love and debauchery!