My wife and I (both late 30’s) have been talking about opening our marriage for a while now. A major stumbling block we keep getting to is my wife’s low self esteem (something which I hope successfully opening the marriage will actually improve), specifically her belief that she is not attractive enough to find another person.

While my wife believes me when I say I find her attractive, she evidently thinks I’m some sort of anomaly, even though, by her own admission she catches people checking her out sometimes.

She has no specific major flaws or abnormalities or anything like that, she’s fairly thicc, which a lot of guys (including me) prefer, takes care of herself, has nice hair, dresses well, etc. I think she’s beautiful and adore her body.

If anyone has experienced this same issue, or has advice please let me know. I don’t believe this to be just her excuse to not open our marriage as she’s a pretty straight shooter, and we are at very early discussion stage, neither of us are sold on the idea yet anyway, it’s more of a ‘what if’.