A year ago, my wife and I decided to open our marriage. Like most couples who start down this path, one of us was more crazy about it than our better half. I’m writing this as a way of conveying some of the erotica, pitfalls and history of our open-marriage in hopes that it might help someone else when they consider the dynamics of their own relationship.

I first proposed the idea of an open marriage 3-4 years ago — pre COVID. My spouse and I had been through some collective trauma and her libido was severely curtailed. The first few times I brought it up, I was selfish — really only thinking about who I wanted to fuck once my wife gave me permission. This was the WRONG way to approach things. Needless to say, the “open marriage” really never took flight, and my fantasies about seeing her with another man or me being with another woman — remained that — fantasies.

While waiting for a flight in October 2022, I came across a post where a woman was in a similar situation with her husband — she wanted the open marriage, but her husband didn’t. He believed no one else would want to fuck him, so he was very reluctant. This wife took some pictures of her husband and made a few Reddit posts; asking the audience what they’d do to him if they had him alone… the responses were overwhelmingly favorable and “greased the skids” for them opening their marriage. He understood that he was an attractive man and became more comfortable with the situation.

I took it upon myself to upload some faceless shots of my wife and asked for feedback from the Reddit audience (you can see some of my older posts). The response was overwhelming to say the least. Within an hour my inbox was flooded with men begging to spend a night with her. It was surreal. My wife is gorgeous, but nothing prepares you for the rapid assault of fan mail. My wife was pleasantly surprised but still expressed some reluctance, so I put my fantasies on hold.

A few months later, I’m driving to work and I receive a text from my wife, “…we need to talk”. While on the phone, she proceeds to tell me about how she snuck out of the house while my son and I were sleeping and met up with a former co-worker in his truck, outside our house. I was immediately turned on. I couldn’t believe she’d done it. She continues to elaborate about the head she gave him and how she wanted to fuck him, but hadn’t because she didn’t have more time. A few nights later, she went over to his place and sent me some very spicey videos of her going down on him, him giving it to her doggystyle and her riding his cock like he was a Kentucky thoroughbred.

Knowing how badly I wanted the open relationship and respecting her hesitancy; I proposed SHE try the open marriage for six months. This arrangement gave us time and space for her to try things out, meet people and genuinely assess if she liked this lifestyle. Over six months, she met up with a handful of guys, and has enjoyed getting her brains fucked in. It’s odd, but the most turned on I get, is when I know she’s about to meet up with the lucky guy. I don’t get it, but I’m so happy to have my best friend back.

I recently hooked up with my buddy’s wife and took my first plunge into non-monogamy. Ultimately, it was this act that I worried the most about — I had no issues sharing my wife. She, however, had expressed some concerns sharing me. That being said, when the night came for me to meet up with my buddy’s wife, my wife was completely supportive and seems to be handling this portion of the lifestyle well.

I am amazed at how easy it is for her to find men; not because she isn’t beautiful, but because the opposite rings true — it’s impossible to find women on here who aren’t OnlyFans Models or prostitutes. One of the things I’ve started to realize is that I’ll likely only be relegated to fucking women I know. It’s not ideal and severely limits my selection, but there just doesn’t seem to be an efficient way of meeting interested women. Most of the guys my wife finds spent a lot of time messaging women on Reddit before of them responded. I’d be interested in knowing how you (men) found your lady.

If you have any questions or this story helped in anyway; please don’t hesitate to reach out.