We've been in the lifestyle for about 7 months now and have been having a great time. Met some really great couples and overall have had a good experience. Just wanted to share a few things and also bring up some stuff we've noticed through our time in the LS. We are by no means experts but hope to have more open discussion on the sub.

Lately the sub has been fairly active with couples posting which is awesome. However most of them only show the girl and not the guy. Which is one thing if you're looking for a single male but is there a reason why most couples don't show the M half? As hot as the girl may be if my gf can't see the male we usually don't bother reaching out to the couples. Just a thought maybe it's just us and seeing the girl is good enough for most couples.

To the single men, we recently had a post searching for others and suprisingly this time around I'd say 90% of the men were actually very respectful. Some had pictures, others had written well thought out messages and it was overall very positive however that made it even harder to find one. When you have 100s of messages there's no way I can actually have a meaningful conversation with all of them and honestly we probably had to pass up on some really great guys who we would like only because the initial message was good but didn't wow us so we had to skip over them and not waste to much time.

Now I'm no expert when it comes to all this so take this advice with a grain of salt. For you single men who are actually serious about finding a couple. Here are somethings you can do to stand out because you are literally up against 100s of other men.

A picture goes a long way. A full body face picture is the best but we understand not everyone is comfortable sharing their face off the bat but the ones who do have a leg up on you so your message better be really well thought out to catch the couples attention. No dick pics unless its asked for. You could have a golden dick but if she's not attracted to you or your personality it's a no go. Dick pics 99% of the time go to the ignore pile. Lastly be respectful in your message, don't just say "HI", don't come at them with "BBC" or "bwc" "ready to please". Telling us you have a 9incher doesn't do anything unless it's specifically asked for.

Treat the couple with respect like you would anyone in your daily life and it will go a long way. We try to respond to everyone who puts in even just a little effort and honestly even though it's time consuming for me I try and message everyone back but miss some along the way.

Lastly the biggest thing for us is the conversation. If the people we are talking to, couples or singles cannot hold a conversation and respond with one word or one lines responses it's a pass for us. They could be the most attractive people out there but if we can't talk to them it's a no go. Then on the flip side someone could not be as attractive initially but we have a great conversation with them and it builds the attraction. For us attraction is more then just the way you look but how you conduct yourself and how well we vibe.

That's all for now, thanks for reading. We really love the lifestyle and really enjoy this subreddit and all it has provided us. We really hope to have a bigger role within the community in the future. Whatever that may be, from having more open discussions on this page or finding a way to help new couples navigate through the start of their journey with our stories.