When we started the lifestyle we ran into quite a few couples who we ended up doing solo chats with. We figured it was the norm. It helped each person build a connection with the other partner they'd be playing with. Which the wife preferred as it helped her get more comfortable.
The wife is more introverted so group chats she tended to just be an observer but when couples started doing solo chats with us it helped her quite a bit.
Fast forward two years now and it seems like most couples we run into want to do group chats or just me and the other husband talk until we meet up. She has little interaction with the other male and I with the other wife before we meet couples nowadays and we do most the talking in person. Which we don't mind, we don't really like endless chatting online anyways.
Just curious what others experiences are with chats and what you prefer and why?
My preference is the former - solo chats. For me, it helps identify and build chemistry. I also find the convos more natural. That said, I also like to solo chat with the female as well. Things are much smoother when the women form a connection (with or without intention of playing together). At least this has been my experience.
We have found the same lately, more group chat preferred by ppl we meet.
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This is our experience as well and why we keep it as a group. Many men (most?) start out with the sexting knob turned on 11 and Eva finds there's nowhere to go from there. What we've noticed is those chats tend to fizzle off and never return.
On top of that some men can be very different in a solo chat vs group (creepy, overly aggressive, sneaky...etc). So like so many other situations in swinging, bad apples have spoiled the bunch and now it just stays in a group and if the other party/parties can't vibe with that then we take that as a sign that we're not a good fit.