I am coming across the same issues over and over. I matched with a guy a week ago, chatted, talked about mutual interest in each other, voiced my boundaries and what I’m looking for and the guy voiced interest in getting to know me and hang out- on a physical level and open for more connections which I’m game with. We texted everyday just a check in but not too in-depth of a convo. I personally had an intense texting banter with people that after meeting, the spark wasn’t there so we both kept it light.

Sunday was the planned day to meet. In the morning he checked in, he suggested 8:30/9 meetup. Around 7:30 he texts me and bails saying he’s too tired. I told him okay, good luck out there to this he replies “so that’s it?”

My reply was yes that’s it. I know people have situations and shit happens but if you’re bailing on a date because you’re too tired from studying on a Sunday an hour before us meeting up, I’d say that’s that! In my head it kind of foreshadows what kind of flakiness he might pull in the future.

I now kind of regret how fast I shut it down because maybe if I was a little more patient, he might of been a great connection. Instead I’m back to swiping aimlessly. Last time I disconnected with someone because he was taking too long to respond, and I was very gung-ho about my wants and boundaries in that post. Now I see that I’m fast at disconnecting trying to protect my heart. What are your thoughts on this? I work, I have kids, it’s hard for me to make time to date so I cherish my off time and don’t want to be wasting it on people that’s flakey but are my impatience messing up with any potential connections?