• Apologies for the long post - but please read

Okay, so firstly I need to get this one off my chest, and I genuinely need to get a female’s perspective on it.

So, I am a single father who’s looking to date and hopefully give my love again. Admittedly I wear my heart on my sleeve and I would definitely describe myself as a type B personality, someone who values passion, intimacy and emotion.

So I meet this lady online, we hit it off right away and agree to meet for drinks. The date went better than I ever could of imagined, and we both shared some laughs, kissing, and generally the communication was really free flowing and we were both comfortable. When the date finished, we both kissed, said goodbye and agreed to make further plans – from them on the conversation really escalated, constant messaging, romantic, cheeky messages. And it was really really consistent, from both of us. We both (or so it seemed) were really interested in one another.

She came over a few nights later and we obviously ended up in my bedroom, but no funny business. We did play, but no sex. Again the intimacy, chemistry and connection was completely off the charts. She told me she really likes me, I said the same, she said I make her happy etc.

Again over the course of the next week, the messages continued, I learnt more about her and her family, and was happy to share my own history with her. Things honestly were great, and I really liked her. One thing I did know however was that she did have a number of children, one of whom was only a toddler, so I knew her time and attention was going to be limited, but that was also the case for me, with two of my own – so I completely understood and respected that.

Anyway Wednesday night, she comes over, we have sex, and spend the next hour literally in each others arms – we were both so comfortable, happy and into each other, it was almost bizarre how quickly this occurred. She was telling me about introducing me to her friends etc and she left that night, literally all over me, as I was over her. Now, I have reflected on this night over and over and literally there was absolutely nothing to indicate I made her uncomfortable, or anything I said to make her doubt me etc. Like I said, our feelings were so mutual.

The next day, radio silence – she finally messages me and says she thinks we are moving too fast and that she wants to focus on her family, and delete the apps. She is also dealing with her ex who was giving her trouble, so despite me being disappointed and sad, I did understand this completely. All she could manage to say to me was, that she was “Sorry”. Nothing else.

So a night or two goes by, and I decide to reopen bumble, and low and behold who do I see, her, with a newly created profile! So I call her out on it, and she basically turns it back around on me, playing the victim – not once offering any type of explanation. She accuses me of being mean to her, even when all I’ve done is just explain to her how that action hurt me, as Its made me feel like a complete and utter idiot.

Can someone please try and explain WTF has happened here? Apologies, I’ve tried to put as much information in this as I could, but obviously its easier to explain in person. Firstly, if she did want to “focus on her family and get off the apps” as she called it, why would she reload bumble? If she wasent interested, a) why wouldn’t she just tell me? And b) her actions definitely didn’t convey that.

F*ck, I hate dating.