I’ve been trying online dating for about 3 months now. My experience thus far has prompted this post. If you’re a gay man and you’re looking for a partner, DONT MESSAGE STRAIGHT DUDES. I’m very clear about what I’m looking for. I specify multiple times in my bios etc. that I’m not looking for men, I’m very straight, I’m only interested in women. I have still gotten more than a dozen gay men trying to convince me to have sex.

I have nothing against gay men. I have a couple friends who are gay and I love them (in a completely platonic way). But I am straight. I’m very clear about the fact I’m not interested in men. So please don’t message me if you’re a man.

Admittedly most of the guys who’ve messaged me have been super chill about it, I even had one guy who had some very helpful hints for my profile. I don’t mind them as much. I really mind the gay guys who think they can convince me to question my sexuality. Multiple times now I’ve had a dude message me, and I’ll try to politely decline. But they just keep pushing. They’ll say “You can just close your eyes, it feels just as good”, “A hole is a hole, you should try it before you say no” etc. Don’t be that guy. If someone isn’t interested they aren’t interested, badgering them just makes you look like a creep.