EDIT: I didn't make this post to generalize. Dating is tough for every gender, and I don't think that men are the problem; no one particular group is. I just was asking to clarify on my own actions and get advice on how to do better.

So I'm a 30 year old female and recently decided to start using the apps. It sucks, but nothing insane I guess.

My biggest problem is that I keep getting people intent on a one-night stand rather than a date. My profile lists my intentions as "serious/long term relationship" and I only swipe on men that match that. My pictures are not sexual. My prompts and about me are more personality and interest responses. But I still keep getting dudes who kind of avoid the romantic interest and move into sexual. I get it, we're all thirsty out here. I love sex as much as the next person. But I want to be wooed and courted a little. What am I doing wrong? Men, is this just normal? I don't know.

I also am not overly flirtatious or trying to have sex immediately. I get enough sex and have been so tired of the hookups, hence, the apps. I'm reasonably attractive but nothing mindblowing. I just wanna date lol. I just want to find love and keep it.