Hi there. I'm 40 years old. Soon to be single again. Living near Cape Cod. So why am I here? Well with my impending status change I'm coming back to reddit. Im still married. Still chatting in secret. I have 2 kids as well. I've learned quite a lot about myself over the last couple of years. I've learned what makes me tick, what I want in the future, what I was missing and hope to have.

about me: I like nerdy things, sci-fi, Harry Potter, star wars and all the Marvel movies and shows. I enjoy taking the long road home vs the highway. I live on coffee. I like to hike, bike and run. I plan on doing more hiking when I soon can. I like the outdoors. I also enjoy cooking.

I'm looking for someone that can enjoy those things with me. Enjoy just being sometimes..sometimes sitting on the porch and cuddling under a blanket talking and having a drink. Enjoying some dinner or cooking together. I'm looking for a real relationship with someone.

But what I want in combination with that is someone who wants to explore our different kinks. Some of my kinks include Hypnosis, Freeuse, sleep play, objectification and anything related. I think just be open to those things. I'm not really into pain. Maybe some restraints. I know it might sound like I'm just looking for sex but I am not. I want to get to know you. What makes you tick. Go on dates. Work out way up. But I want that openness up front. Knowing that we are both being honest. Hoping that we can each be non-judgmental about our situations and our past. We are two separate people. That's how it should be, sharing in something special.

I'm not sure if this resonates with anyone or anyone at least close by. I hope it does. I can see us enjoying a day hiking in the woods or walking on the beach, getting coffee and having lunch, watching something on Netflix mixed with teasing each other, touching, some.fun play, and then use of some of these kinks some nights. Exciting to think about.

For hypnosis I really enjoy freeuse. There are so many aspects of what you can do with this and I would really love to explore it with someone. Hope to hear from you.