If you google the types of attraction, you generally come across five: sexual, romantic, physical/sensual, emotional, aesthetic.

But I think two are particularly critical: emotional and aesthetic

I think aesthetic is critical because for there to be sexual or physical/sensual attraction, you should be attracted to how someone looks (to at least some degree).

And I think emotional attraction is critical because for there to be romantic attraction you have to be able to connect on a level beyond the physical.

All that to say this: At the very basic level, I'm looking for someone who I find physically attractive, and for someone who finds me physically attractive. And I'm looking for someone who wants to have someone with whom to exchange messages (almost, if not) daily. You will have my attention, and I will have yours. Yes, we both have our lives, but we'll want to hear back regularly from one another - to share about anything and everything - from the most private thoughts to the most mundane happenings. So, somehow, we'll make time for one another - even if it's the next day or the day after. That, for me, is where the emotional attraction will come in.

About me: I'm Asian, 38, married with kids, in the Washington, DC-area (more specifically NoVA, Northern Virginia). I'm really chatty (a natural story teller). I love to sing. I'm a former athlete (track and football), so I'm in fairly good shape even though I don't work out as much as I used to or as I'd like to. I'm also a former overachiever who is now without a checklist (something I need to work on). I don't do drugs. I don't drink. Heck, I don't even swear (in person, anyway, but oddly enough will on occasion via chat). :) Not that I'm against any of that. Just not what I do. I'm also into sci-fi, fantasy, crime solving (shows, books, etc.), superhero stuff, "chick flicks," and romantic comedies (to name a FEW). YouTube and Netflix are my friends. (Hulu used to be until they started charging ... haha. Sorry, I also laugh at my own jokes sometimes.)

About you: Not saying you have to be skinny, fit, or petite, but I'm not looking for a BBW. A "little extra" is fine. And if you're short, that might give a little more wiggle room for "extra." Just ask yourself if I'd be able to easily and comfortably wrap my arms around your midsection (I love hugging and holding.). Preferably, you're also shorter than 5'8" but it wouldn’t be a hard “no” if you’re not. As for personality, I think if you clicked on this post and have read this far, we are probably compatible enough to engage in a conversation to get to know one another better. I don't need to say what your likes and dislikes should be, or say you should have this quality or that characteristic. Compatibility is not an exact science, right?

So, since you've gotten this far, send me a message already! And don't worry about writing a catchy, Pulitzer prize-winning first message. I'm not going to ignore your one-liner. I'm a guy. Our inboxes don't get flooded with messages like women. :) And I will reply.

ALSO ... if you made it this far, enjoyed what I wrote, but have decided NOT to message me, can you at least upvote this post? I've been told that the other men on subs like this will intentionally downvote M4F posts so they won’t get any attention. So if you're not who I'm looking for (or vice-versa), would you help this hopeless romantic better his chances of finding them by upvoting this? Thanks!

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