I'm a bad husband. When we're out with other couples, I wonder if they feel the spark when they hold hands. I wonder what they look like under their clothes. I wonder what their sex life is like - are their bedroom escapades sensual, kinky, both?

When a woman smiles at me at the gym, I wonder what it would be like to kiss her. When I see random couples walking hand in hand, I wonder if they are comfortable sharing their deepest fantasies with each other, and if they fulfill them for one another.

I didn't mean to be a bad husband. Years of unrequited advances and lack of reciprocation - no, lack of connection - have made me this way. I'm sure I'm at fault, too. I probably could have and should have tried harder. But I can only give so many two-hour massages without so much as a thank-you (much less a massage of my own) before I start to seek fulfillment elsewhere. So here I am.

I'm seeking someone who understands where I'm coming from and is here for similar reasons. I am nonjudgmental and want someone to like me for me. And I want to be that person for her.

Here are a few things about me to help you decide if I'm worth a closer look:

• I'm a romantic. My idea of a perfect date is going to a seaside carnival together, laughing as we play games, dancing to the gazebo band, stealing a kiss atop the Ferris wheel, then walking hand-in-hand through a picket fence-lined neighborhood, wondering what stories the walls in those old seaside homes could tell, before ending at the beach for a moonlit swim.

• I'm not perfect and don't expect my partner to be. I have a few extra pounds, though I am a former wrestler and go to the gym daily. I'm not concerned with body type, size, weight, and other superficial things (though it would be nice to meet someone in the ballpark of my age). I'm interesting in getting to know my partner intimately - what makes her smile, what delights her, what makes her feel special. I want to be that person for her, and her that person for me.

• I like to laugh and make others laugh. I don't take myself too seriously. I can hold a conversation and hope to find an OA partner who is willing to do that, too. I'm not a jealous partner by any stretch.

• I am trustworthy. I am discreet and not looking to change anyone's situation. I'm not pushy and I'm not concerned about sharing pics right out of the gate - I think we should establish trust in each other before we take things too far.

• I am quite kinky and I lean heavily submissive, though I can switch. My fantasies typically revolve around hotwifing, cuckolding, CBT, and similar themes. I get off on my partner's pleasure and making her happy. I'm willing to try just about anything (legal) at least twice. I know I'm not for everyone, but I think it's best to be upfront about my kinks in case they are deterrents. I don't want to waste anyone's time.

• I'm here looking for an adventure with someone I can get to know and be there for. I want to explore what's missing in our lives. I will try to be as responsive as possible. I'm in EST and typically around during the weekdays and weeknights, plus some weekend mornings and nights. Afternoons are usually tough for me. I'm willing to invest time and effort into this and hope to find someone else who is, too. I'm also a realist and know we all have bigger priorities in life - and I respect that.

If I sound like I might be a good fit, send me a chat!