For the basics up front: I am 40, married, 6’2, ~235 lbs (working on bringing that down), and a redhead. I have a professional job that I’m very new to doing. And I do not have any kids.

Now with the basics out of the way, how about the more interesting things? I have a very varied background. I moved more than ten times during my 20s and 30s, and many of those moves involved leaving jobs and starting from scratch. This whole stable profession thing is new to me. I will happily nerd out over coffee, cocktails, or food with you. I enjoy creative hobbies. I used to be a gamer, but have fallen behind over the past several years as life has increasingly gotten in the way. I try to read each night (though don’t do as much as I’d like), and recently started a book collection. I don’t have normal musical taste and will probably be lost trying to nerd out over your favorite music, though I’m happy to take suggestions. I’ll happily gush over pets and currently have two dogs (though I have had some weird pets in the past).

What am I looking for? Connection. And desire. I love my wife, but I am often the afterthought, and she is generally not particularly interested in the sexual side of things. So I am looking for someone who is interested in filling those roles. Someone who is interested in learning about me, and who doesn’t mind occasionally taking the lead in the conversation. Too often I get in chats where the other person will only respond, but never really reciprocate, and it feels more like I’m talking at them rather than with them. And I want someone who is open and willing to discuss and explore (initially in writing but, if we connect and are reasonably local, hopefully eventually in person as well) the more intimate and sexual sides of ourselves.

What I can offer is all the same I’m asking for. I will take the time to message you and (for as long as you are engaged and responsive) probably won’t go more than a day without reaching out. I will make time to check and respond to messages throughout the day and evening, and will let you know if there’s an extended period where I’ll be particularly unavailable. And I’m largely an open book when it comes to discussion topics. Ask me anything, and let’s learn who each other truly is.