Oh, how the mighty have fallen...... for another woman, but thats not the reason why I feel like DG. This is more like right now, I am the drummer and I am looking to be the front man for a while. I have no issues with being the drummer, keeping a steady rhythm, throwing in a tasty fill here or there, maybe a solo where you get spun upside down a'la Tommy Lee back in the Motley Crüe days. But when you boil it down, the drummer is there for keeping the beat and I feel like the last few connections here have been more about keeping the beat than coming up with our own melody. My energy in a relationship comes from feeling like we are making our own sound, our mutual vibe is the perfect mix of our individual vibes..... they won't always line up, but the magic is when you can make them work in harmony.

I've had that kind of connection before and if you know, you know. The experience is hard to explain because the feeling of "this is it" will be different for everyone, but the broad description is that you feel rejuvenated/excited/whole/interesting/desired/respected/lucky all in one. If you have been there and know, we will probably be off to a better start than not, but having had success isn't a prerequisite here, just an extra benefit.

So, whats my vibe? Low key. I really don't like any extra attention in the conventional sense. There are a lot of reasons why I garner extra attention, but the problem is it usually isn't the kind of attention I want. I want the attention to be on a deeper level, where we can open up and feel like our story is being heard and understood, like UNDERSTOOD understood. We are all complex people and sometimes it feels nice to talk to someone who can unravel those complexities because they know how to untangle them. I'm also a thinker and creative. I have a big imagination with a laser focus when I need it, but I get disenchanted and can be in a funk for a while. I will go through times when I need to be more serious and a certain point hits where my thoughts default to "whats the point of all this"... see what I mean about being complex. It goes deeper than those minor examples and we can get to that in time, but for now I hope that gives you an idea of how my mind works. The yin to that yang is that I have a very developed sense of self mixed with quick wit, sarcasm, social commentary, and self awareness. There is a strong possibility that I can make a joke in most situations or drop a well timed one liner. There is a stronger possibility that I can make you laugh more than you are now.

Now we come to the difficult part of this whole thing.... attraction. I'm just as shallow as the next person when it comes to attraction. We all have our preferences and areas where we can concede without settling. As far as emotional attraction, I like to use "be deeper than a diamond and less pretentious" as an example. I am attracted to depth and humility in a personality as well as a solid sense of humor. We can't always be serious and if we can't banter with relative ease..... yeah..... that can be rough. But, emotional attraction is only part of the game. Let's be honest for second, ok? If this was a real life scenario 9/10 we would be leading off with the physical attraction part, right? What is attractive to me? A strong sense of style, an athletic build, average height to tallish (I'm over 6'), fit mom bod/petite/honest curvy/conventionally attractive, able to rock a messy bun, hoodie and sweats just as easily as getting done up for a night out. As for me: Tall (as mentioned), handsome/cute, a face that looks familiar (I get "you look like someone I know" a lot), in decent shape (not a gym rat, but very active and have a physical job), fluent in hygiene and grooming, know how to work with what I have, and I look like I am in my mid-30's.

If you're here it looks like you made it. I'm glad you did. Maybe I'll hear from you.