I just wanted to pass along a bit of advice. Unfortunately, the worst offenders probably won’t read this anyway. But, here goes

The odds are stacked against you. Last post I made had over 200 replies. I’m sorry guys. Just a lot of competition. You might have more luck posting your own. But, if you do want to reply here are a few things that will help

1) at least include your age, situation, etc. Something for us to evaluate whether we want to talk to you. The number of messages with just one line or next to no information is staggering. If I have 200 replies, why would I talk to the person that just writes “still looking?”

2) don’t focus on sex. A lot of you guys think telling a girl how horny you are will get a reply. Without more substance, you’re just going to get ignored. Read the female posts here. Most of us are looking for a mental and emotional connection.

3) walls of text are probably fine. I actually appreciate them. Even a copy and paste description is understandable. But start with something personal about why you responded to my post. Then tell me you’re going to paste a general description of yourself and what you want. That’s totally fine and gives me a flavor of who you are

4) pay attention to what we are actually looking for. I hate to say it, but don’t “take your shot”. There’s too many other guys that reply that do match what we are looking for. Just move on to the next person.

5) much older gentleman - I would, in general, steer away from younger women unless they specifically say they are interested in older men. I’m always surprised how many guys 30 years older than I am message me. There are some girls that are into that. Focus on their posts

6) make me laugh. Humor can really differentiate an otherwise pedestrian reply. Most of the men I’ve replied to had really unique and funny messages.

7) for the love of god, stop telling us that you’ve never been with an [Asian, Latina, Black, skinny, fat, etc] girl. I don’t much care about fulfilling your personal sex fantasies. There are other subs for that. I am not just an object for you to get off to.

This is stuff that is just going to help prevent your message from automatically getting ignored. The rest is just up to what the girl is looking for. That’s harder to pin down. But pay attention to what she says in her post and address that.

Oh, one last thing. Saving the best tip for last. If you want your message to actually be read, wait 2-3 days after the post. I will get over 100 replies in the first hour. But then it drops off. Messages sent after the initial rush are much more likely to be read and considered because it drops down to just a couple a day. It’s counter intuitive. I think a lot of guys are worried that I’ve already found someone. But look at how many people have to keep posting over and over to find a good match. And the amount of ghosting is insane. So your first barrier is to just get a girl to actually read your post and consider replying. Your chances are much higher if it’s one of just a few replies that day as opposed to buried in 100 other replies.

Good luck out there!