If you’re reading this, then it means I’ve already grabbed your attention. That’s good. Let me see what I can do to keep it.

I’m married, and my wife and I, we’re….really good friends. I’ve tried to rekindle a spark so many times but it’s clear by now that it’s not going to happen. I know I’m capable of giving so much more and deserving of receiving so much more. I’m not prepared to change my situation just yet, so here I am.

And here you are. So let’s see if we each have what the other needs.

About me: Professional. Educated. Musician. Above average emotional intelligence and availability. Kind. Occasionally witty. I make an effort to be interesting. Love trivia, mini golf, hiking, cooking, and just about any sort of game. Highly social. I am an extrovert. High libido. Kinky. Dominant (Daddy archetype.)

Physical: Caucasian. 6’ even. Broad shoulders. Large frame. Dad bod plus, but pretty muscular. No tats or piercings. Full head of hair that’s dark brown, either short enough to stick up or just long enough to be parted on one side. Brown eyes. Clean shaven or a neatly trimmed mustache/goatee combo. I am a solid six. I have been told by many women who are not my mother that I am handsome.

About you: Married, or in a committed long term relationship. Intelligent. Open. Younger than me. Can match my energy. Or better yet, challenge me to come up to your level. Must. Love. Music. Emotionally intelligent. People should think of you as an ‘upbeat’ person. Kind. High libido. Kinky. Submissive.

You physically: I don’t have a long list of preferences here. I am attracted to a feminine aesthetic.

Final thought: I’m here for an Affair. I want all the excitement, feelings, sharing of the mundane and sublime, and sexual exploration of a real relationship. I have referenced aspects of BDSM throughout this post, so I just want to say: that is an element of my personality. That is not my entire personality. It is a ‘must-have’ in a relationship for me at this point, but I want and need so much more than a sexual connection.

And for those of you who have had terrible Doms before, you should know I’ve created a rather lengthy curriculum for us to work through together to make sure we are compatible. Entering into a dynamic is not something I take lightly.

Ultimately, I need someone I can take care of on some level. You should need what I have to offer.