What has been missing in my life may only apply to a small minority. I’m okay with that. I’d rather spend more time finding the right person than wasting mine and another’s time figuring it out.

Married, alt, tall, toned, tattooed and pierced Dad of one, looking for my light. I got bait and switched, as soon as the ring went on, the fun, kink, sex, feelings, getting looked at in general went out the window. I’ve made my peace with that after many years, and now I’m looking to live the life I want and need again.

I’ve had AP’s before, they couldn’t ever commit to meeting regularly (more than once a year?) And online AP’s just aren’t the same. So, rather than try and cast a wide net, I’m going to be direct so that I don’t waste your time or mine.

What I do care about is open mindedness, a need for kink/adventurous sexual deviance, connection, common ground, intimacy, commitment, devotion, trust, primal needs,

I don’t care what you look like, or where you come from, or what your star sign is, or how many finger’s you have. Physical attraction is in the eye of the beholder. I want personality. Be weird. Be nerdy. Be kinky. Like weird stuff. Like silly stuff. Want intimate things. Want to be wanted. Need to be needed. Love to be loved.

In short - just be you. Be unapologetically you. Ideally, I’m looking for a DDlg dynamic as that’s what I love and am used to and is what is natural to me and is who I am. If you do or don’t have experience with that dynamic, doesn’t matter. What matters is that you either like that lifestyle, or you want to finally have your chance at it.

I work away in London regularly, which would be ideal for meets, I can accommodate up to 2/3 nights at a time. But that’s getting ahead of things, I just wanted to lay my cards on the table. I have a lot of character to invest in something that I want to be incredibly special and meaningful and meneroable and maybe something permanent, do you? Oh, and don’t be afraid to live in a little dream world where we imagine the future. I love that, so much.