Anyone can have a corporate job and 2.5 kids, live behind a white picket fence, watch football, go hiking, wear polo shirts, etc. that's all super generic. That's not what I'm looking for. I want the guy that played Vampire the Masquerade in high school. I want the musician. The writer. The artist. The guy that looks "scary" with all his tattoos and band tees. Give me the outcasts.

I'm 40. Married for 12 years. No kids on purpose. Atheist and politically liberal. And while I do have a "normal" office job, I'm also the girl playing TTRPGs, doing art, wearing black, and getting tattooed. I love absurdism and HATE sarcasm, and I'm intelligent enough to know that level of intelligence is not correlated to level of education. (Though yes. I do have a degree.)

Physically, I'm chubby. If you're not ok with that, no harm, just don't waste your time. I'm a body mod enthusiast having several tattoos, and I have been called cute by many people over the years.

I'm looking for a well balanced BFFWB type relationship with a man between 40 and 50 who has time for this, identifies with the stuff I said before, loves sending and receiving random instagram reels, and lives in North America for time zone reasons (age and location are non-negotiable.)

Looks wise, I'm most attracted to men who are more or less HWP, or at least can see their feet when they look down, with short hair, well kept beards, and body mods. While none of these physical attributes are set in stone, I do believe physical attraction is important.

So grab your dice, guitar, watercolors, or whatever and let's get weird with it.

As long as this post is up, feel free to say hi.