Good day! Welcome to my post. This is my first time doing this, and yes, I have scrolled through this sub and seen the dozens of M4F posts with no comments or upvotes. Let's see if I have better luck!

About me...47M, located in North Carolina. Married 20 years, 2 kids, dead bedroom. My wife and I get along fine and have agreed we need to separate, but just haven't figured out the logistics yet. I'm looking for some discreet excitement on the side. An online affair would be great, but would consider in person for someone local.

Phyisically, I'm 5'9", Caucasian, brown hair, blue eyes. I'm about 225 pounds, which is too heavy for my height, I know, but I'm working on it. I like to Peloton (bike), run, walk, and recently got back into lifting weights. Physical attraction is important, I know, so I am open to swapping photos early on to make sure we’re both interested.

I like woodworking, drawing/painting, reading, and video games. My creative pursuits are pretty hacky, but they bring me joy, and I'm getting better at them. I mainly read fantasy and sci-fi, but I also like other fiction genres and nonfiction. I'm very curious and love learning new things about the world.

Ideally, I'd like to be with a woman who is mid-30s to mid-50s. I'm not really attracted to a specific physical "type" of woman, but I would prefer someone who is height/weight proportionate. I need to be with someone intelligent and who is a good writer. I am a very independent person, and I would prefer an independent woman, as well - someone who values her own space and solitude, but wants a genuine and warm connection with a man like me.

The other day, I was thinking about how email used to be fun, and now it's just a chore. What I am looking for is the feeling I used to get when I opned up my email and I would see the name of a special person in my inbox. It felt like temporarily levitating in a cloud of fireflies. I've been chasing that feeling for a long time, and I hope there's someone out there that can help me get it back.

If you think that person is you, please DM me, and let me know the last book you read. Thank you for reading my post!