45 year old guy who probably watched too much Red Shoe Diaries growing up. I’ve got a wonderful job, no kids, a good home life, but a bedroom colder than diner fries. It wasn’t always that way, but time makes fools of us all. Im married and not looking to change my home situation, hopefully you’re in the same boat.

Here’s the basics: I’m 6’3”, 250ish, with a sharp beard. A weakness for pizza, but an avid enjoyer of long frequent hikes to stay in shape. I’m also a photographer and maker/enjoyer of music. Though not the original intention, my side projects give me plenty of flexibility and reason to be out at odd hours. 

“Affair” doesn’t feel like the right fit, I’m after a connection. In my head, you’re the person I link up with, mentally, emotionally, and *fingers crossed* physically. I want to be the person you can’t wait to mind dump on when you get a few minutes to yourself, and for you to be the person I can feel free and open with. I want to share dreams, memes, M&Ms, and plans for our next hotel room rendezvous. Discretion and mutual respect is absolutely paramount. For better at worse, I've grown rather good at compartmentalizing.

Kink has long been a part of my love style, but it’s not my defining characteristic. We're not talking basement dungeon, but I'm also not a wannabe fifty shades plastic handcuffs kinda guy. I'm into using ropes, restraints, blindfolds and paddles. It’s not an always thing, but I definitely am looking for someone who enjoys or is at least curious about and open to non-vanilla play. 

The sooner I can stop making these posts, the happier we'll all be, let be honest. I stumbled my way into an affair a year and a half ago (it's a long story) and it was some of the best times of my adult life. Things sadly came to an end, and I'm ready to take another shot at it, being a little smarter and introspective as a result.