A quick preamble for those of you who are interested, I'm looking for someone with some time to invest. Someone with some availability, I know that can be difficult, and I recognize that. But I don't think that's a difficult ask, if your situation doesn't allow you any freedom or availability, then better to find someone who conforms more to what your situation demands.

So my ideal partner is someone who works from home/stay at home, has energy/time for an emotional investment, who's funny, intelligent, and can laugh at herself. The age I'm looking for someone in their late 20's to mid/late 30's. Physically I'm not too critical, we all have battle damage, scars, imperfections comes with living life. So curvy wonderful, slender wonderful, imperfect body wonderful, I am more interested in what is between your ears (though who doesn't love boobs).

Anyway here is my spiel, hope it resonates with you:

Meeting someone, like a lot of other things, is about timing. You find the right person, in the right place, at the right time and just everything falls into place serendipitously.

Only my timing sucks, and I don't know where to look for the perfect person for me. So I'm taking the old approach, let's throw some shit at the wall and let's see what sticks approach.

I don't mean to say that trying to find someone is equivalent to throwing shit at the wall, it's not a literal approximation. I just mean to say if you don't know what you are doing, you are going to have to try a lot of different methods to figure it out.

But the good news is I only have to be successful once (yeah right), so like the many times I've won the lottery (never once) I'm going to sort this all out. So this is less about me, and more about appealing to you, to your sense of humor, to your curiosity, to your absolute lack of self preservation.

Look, men are scary, there are some crazy ones out there, and they hide their scary so well. So I understand what a risk it is for a woman to put themselves out there dating wise. So here is my deal: let me lay it out and you can decide it's worth the risk of being murdered getting to know me (It's not)

I'm a Dominant, simply that means I like taking control sexually. It doesn't mean to ignore your partner, it doesn't mean to be cruel if you want. Just means I like to take charge when it comes to play. Also not just sexually, I like looking after my partner, making sure she eats, or that she takes her meds, or that she gets enough rest. I take a supportive, caring approach to how I interact with my partner.

It doesn't come from a I know better place either, I just want her to be safe, healthy, and happy. That's it, no ulterior motive or anything, I like to build the foundation with my partner using communication, mutual respect, and by listening to each other. I've found this to be the approach that works for me.

So that's my spiel, I'm more than happy to get to know you, and for us to learn about each other. I'm really taking a relaxed, chill approach with this. Not forcing anything, not creating uncomfortable pressure, just allowing us to vibe off each other as we learn about one another, and how and if we fit together as two people.

Thank you so much for your time, and consideration, if I don't hear from you, I hope you stay safe, and hope you find your perfect partner. All the best, take care, and have a lovely holiday.

I am married