To preface- not looking to leave my spouse. US time zones only please

I'm looking for a man to connect with physically, mentally, emotionally and sexually. I have young kids, and think finding a man in a similar situation might make us better able to relate. It's not a deal breaker, but certainly helps. Also, not looking for forever online, no specific timeline, but I'd like to meet the right person.

Phyically- attraction is important- I will not waste your time if I don't feel it. I like men who work out (I love gym pics), no big beards, traditionally attractive, hair. I like jawlines and nice shoulders. Aged Blbetween 28 and 44. You don't need a 6 pack, but I want to have the bigger boobs in this connection.

Mentally- I like someome who can make me think. I'm a good conversationalist, but I honestly tire of leading. I'd love someone with the same energy I can offer. I enjoy voice and video chats and random pics of silly stuff throughout your day. I can't get to the sexy, if my mind isn't there.

Emotionally- I need someone consistent to be able to focus on. I have no problem ghosting if left on read constantly or only getting a short sentence once every 5 hours plus. I like men with initative that ask to talk- voice or video, or ask to see my face. Communication is a must. No big deal if you have a busy day, just tell me. Without regular communication, I'll never want to get to the next sexy step in a connection. There needs to be a balance.

Sexually- I like dominant men who are not afraid to let their interest be known. When appropriate, teasing and flirting throughout the day. I'm not super into sexting, more into voice or video. And hopefully in person some day. I cannot do passive men who always wait for me to make a move or give permission. It's boring. I also can't do creeps that can't talk to me about anything other than sex. There needs to be balance.

About me- I'm mom next door cute. Brunette, 5'3, curves with no rolls. Thick thighs with pretty eyes. I enjoy working out when I can, definitely getting more into it again after a medical issue. While Illinois is flat...I like hiking, gardening in the summer, escspe rooms, watching football, board games and the occasional craft. Mostly though, I love being a mom. Most of my days are "just being mommy" and I wouldn't have it any other way. My babies are my passion...but...I just miss those butterflies. Being seen beyond a mom and wife, but as a women. I'm looking for the man who brings that out in me. Someone I can make happy and they reciprocate that. I want to feel safe to be vulnerable and affectionate, put my energy towards one person who is worth it.

Anyways, start by telling me what you're attracted to and how you make something like this works. I probably won't respond if you don't answer these questions to avoid copy and paste guys that respond to everything.