Hi there! After spending years across the country, I’ve finally moved back to CA and I’m ready to find a partner in crime. We’re all on here seeking something that we’re missing in our daily lives, right? For me, it’s reciprocated desire and passion for another person. I love the process of getting to know each other, both mentally and physically. I do think letting the physical, natural urges lead the way at first can be a great way to start, and then backfilling with learning about each other’s stories to round things out. This lets the intrigue and mystery act as kindling for potential meet ups, which is just chefs kiss, such an amazing feeling to be able to share with someone.

I’m a pretty kinky/dominant guy and that interest has been stifled throughout my entire marriage. My SO is very vanilla and low libido, so a big part of why I am on here is to hopefully find someone who is feeling suppressed and wants to explore this stuff as well. It would be wonderfully validating and hot (and honestly great for everyone’s mental health) to be able to find someone who enjoys being my secret outlet as much as I would enjoy being yours.

Some quick facts about me:

1. I’m 5’10”, athletic and fit (but could be better) from a sport I still play competitively.
2. I am decently well educated and have a good WFH job. My job is flexible enough that I could probably meet during work hours if we got to that stage.
3. I’m into some nerdy stuff, but i wouldn’t say it’s my central identity. I enjoy camping and hiking, but also video/board games and shows.
4. I’ve got a 3 year old and it’s crazy/tiring/awesome.
5. I’m INTJ but have become more zen and go with the flow as I’ve gotten into my upper 30s.

I don’t have too many hard requirements for a potential AP, but I suppose I’ll list some preferences:

1. You don’t have to be super fit or anything but taking care of yourself is attractive.
2. I’m looking for someone who does eventually want to meet up as well.
3. I like learning about different people so if your interests don’t match mine, that’s totally fine!
4. I don’t particularly like substance users and I can’t hold my alcohol so a bar isn’t really my jam. I'm more of a coffee/tea type of guy.

That’s about it! If any of this resonates, I’d love to hear from you. Let’s make this one to remember 😊