Hi there. I can't believe I haven't found the right person, but sometimes I think you're just not on this platform. But I am, although to varying degrees of being present.

I'm looking for a woman who is interested in learning about my situation, as I am interested in learning about yours. I'm married, and, like about a third of all marriages, it is without intimacy or sexual activity. This doesn't have to kill a marriage because when we're honest and still feel compassion and love for our SO, it would make no sense to abandon and hurt them incredibly. And many don't mind losing the sexual part.

That doesn't mean changes in the relationship aren't possible, but it takes honesty and patience to do that right. Of course, in case compassion and love are more emotional than physical, it can make us feel very frustrated about our sensual needs, especially if they are very much on our mind. I'm talking about me. If we're trying to just lock this part out of our lives, there are psychological consequences, and it takes quite an effort not to give in to quick and dirty satisfaction via sites and naughty chats, but in the right moment, one realizes how cheap and stupid it all is.

Now this subreddit is for people seeking online affairs, and the fact they occur online is again a great temptation but ultimately comes with the label "you can look and chat, but you can't touch." Many are happy about that, it's safe, unless you get scammed and catfished, approached by sugar babies, or receive chat requests looking for their daddy or sugar daddy. One-sided replies by women to male posts like hello, hey, hi, aren't the exception, more like the standard reply. All of that while the few female posts often search for dream guys that must look like Adonis while they themselves admit to be BBW, either proud of it or currently trying to lose weight. I don't mind it, everyone must be happy in their own body, but there are so many, the majority for sure, and a guy like me looking for health-conscious women isn't interested, just disappointed about how hard it is to find a person more like me. And I don't mean to say I am or love superfit, but you probably know what I mean.

I don't know if you get a clearer picture of whom I'm looking for, but I hope you do. For those who ask "what's not typical about me and my age?" Well, my body is not old, I'm in great shape, my skin is quite lovely still, I'm healthy, got all my hair, most of it in its original brown color. I work like I did in my 30s and 40s, but my interests and needs are much more fundamental. I am much more aware of what's important for my life and future, and it certainly isn't a regular affair I'm seeking but friendship instead. Discretion is ok, but there's nothing wrong with building a friendship with someone of the opposite sex, even when you are married, and especially when you know you can't just remain in a situation that makes you unhappy.

I hope you're having similar thoughts, and even if we get to know each other online, the sky's always the limit. But I'd love to find out how you're coping with your situation.

And let me just say, this wasn't written by a chatbot. Don't need them, don't want them. My own brain and mind is all I need to express what I am thinking. Combined with compassion and self-respect. I'm college-educated with an international background. Happy to receive your reply. I currently live in NW Ohio.

No OF/creators please. Scammers will be reported.