Here’s the executive summary: I’m not an executive. Reviewers have said: unassuming, sometimes quiet, but sneakily funny. Quick-witted, except when I’m a bit slow. The tears of my enemies fuel me more than coffee.

Let me be very clear about what I want.

I want to know you. I want to know how you’re feeling, what you’re passionate about, what that moron at work did. I want to share in the highs (hopefully adding to those) and hold your hand through the lows. Share laughs, ideally often. I’ll be excited for your successes and I want you to be excited for mine. Be in my corner and I’ll be in yours. Let’s make fun of each other sometimes, while knowing there’s real caring. In short, a relationship. It’s not easy, but I know it’s possible.

Here’s the other part of what I want: A girl who wishes to give up some control, because I need to exercise control. I won’t get into the specifics too much because every situation is unique. I’m well aware that this isn’t for everyone and that’s fine. I just want one girl who wants to put herself in my hands. It’s a beautiful thing when it works.

And the real kicker: I want to combine both of those aspects in one person: the everyday and the kinky. Real affection and using you as I wish. Ordinary conversations and filthy ones. This has been the challenge, I’ve found. I need both. I can’t be satisfied without the sexual component, and vanilla just won’t do it for me. But it can’t be all or even mostly about sex: I want to know someone and I want her to know me. Develop the kind of trust where we can share anything. Without that, it doesn’t work.

I understand very well not everyone wants this. Not everyone wants to open up that way. Not everyone is into what I’m into. I’m OK with that. I don’t need everyone. I just need you, the woman who read this and thought, “Yes.” If that’s you, you should get in touch.

The mundane details: I’m in EST. Educated, professional, and pretty much look and dress like it. Married. Not a dad. Never chopped wood in my life. Lean center-left. Around 5’ 8” if height matters to you. HWP and tend to be attracted to the same, give or take. Full head of hair with a little grey and clean-shaven or close to it. Physical attraction does matter, though personality and intelligence are foremost. Age is less important than expressing yourself well and having things in common. I’m not bored and you shouldn’t be, either.

Tell me about yourself and what you want.