I'm wondering if you can tell me what's wrong with your husband.

Perhaps he is not assertive in bed. I'm sure he wants to please you sexually but can't, because he's insecure. It's like the guy with a really hot girlfriend who ends up cheating on her with some unattractive girl, since she makes him feel better about himself. Perhaps he has a case of unworthiness.

Perhaps he has become too predictable or boring. You two have become so close that you are more like a sister to him now, than a lover. He's really secure with you, so he doesn't feel the need to do anything special anymore. Don't you see how most relationships evolve? This is the way it is. Now, with me, I'd rather keep the spice in a relationship, but I understand that it's hard, and most people don't have the time for that sort of thing.

Perhaps he wants odd things in bed. Since he's never had someone like you, he feels the need to objectify you. He can't open up to you, because he risks the possibility of being hurt, so he turns sex into some sort of perverse game.

Perhaps he is acting needy. Well, you should understand that this guy has nothing else going for him, and you're the only thing in his life that makes him feel important. Without you, his life would be meaningless, so you can't really blame him. He needs you.

Perhaps he is acting withdrawn. Maybe he's just afraid to open up to you, since he feels he doesn't deserve someone like you. If he opened himself up, then you might not like what he reveals. Now, with me, I believe that communication is incredibly important in any relationship, but I can understand where he is coming from. He really doesn't want to lose you.

Perhaps he has a failure to commit. Let me tell you about my friend Jim. He drives a truck for a living, but he met a girl from a wealthy family and started dating her. She was really into him, but in his mind, he just didn't deserve a girl of that status. It was like, inside his mind, he was always worried that she would leave him, because she could have any man she wanted.

Perhaps there have been jealousy-inspired arguments. Try not to be mad at him, OK? It's just that you are probably the highest-caliber woman that he's ever been with, and he knows that if you ever left him, he would never find someone of your quality again. He's just worried, that's all.

Perhaps there have been signs of abusive behavior. This happens all the time, when a guy is with a woman that he can't handle emotionally. He just can't handle all the things that are going on inside his head, so he acts out in this manner. He's probably never been in demand with women, so he desperately wants you to stay with him.

Whatever it is, you can tell me what's wrong with your husband.