I was inspired by another post that got past the trap of making the perfect post and instead just went for it. So here goes the imperfect shooting of my shot. Does it still count as shooting one's shot when there's no direct target? Or is that broadcast spawning? Further study may be required.

About me: I'm a married and a dad. I'm a playful and kind person. My kindness is driven by a strong sense of empathy. I get a strong empathetic sense of joy when others are happy. I will delight in and aim for putting a smile or a smirk or a grin on your face. A belly laugh would send me over the edge. I'm not above being serious, but my natural state is on the playful side. I'm comfortable with my sexuality and hope to learn about yours. I've found that great friends make for the best lovers. I'm a largely open book and willing to share about my life. I'm also comfortable telling you when I'm not willing to share and why. So ask away. I hope to do the same.

I am aware of and practice good OPSEC. I'm usually pretty available throughout the day to chat. I'll occasionally have to reluctantly and suddenly drop out of what is a fantastic conversation, but will get back to it as soon as I can. I won't ghost you. If things aren't working, I'm comfortable just saying that. Which seems unfortunately rare.

My hopes for you: I'm not interested in leaving my marriage and I will probably connect best with someone in the same situation. I hope you're interested in connecting for the long term. While there's a thrill in the chase and the undeniable fun of NRE, my hope is for something with more endurance. If you're not also in Hawaii, you're probably on the West coast. Or you keep really weird hours. Probably not a vampire though, it's only a 5 hour difference. Maybe a French vampire? You're probably around my age, but I don't really care if there's a connection. You are a strong, badass woman. I have an undeniable attraction to strong women. Some have used the word feisty. Or sassy. Or "nasty." But those are all just varying levels of sexist terms for strong and assertive women. I'm not on team tradwife and hope you bristle a bit at the word demure. You've got solid OPSEC and can hand your phone to your spouse or parent or kid within 5 seconds of closing the incognito tab.

On catching feelings: I fall in love easily. I hope to fall in love with you. I have fallen in love with others during my marriage and never felt that it took away from the love I have for my wife. I know from experience that I can hold both of those things in my heart and head. That said, I do not equate the feeling of being in love with someone with the need to make them my life partner. They are often related, but not equivalent. So let's be in love with each other, but also not make plans to run away together.

Thus concludes this imperfect introductory wall of text. I hope to hear from you soon.