I unironically think that dirtypenpals might be the best R4R subreddit. If you’re already familiar with dpp, then we’re off to a good start! If you aren’t, then the best way I can describe it is years of individual sexual repression and introspection pouring out in the form of paragraphs and paragraphs of the most creative, imaginative, detailed smut. The bar for post and conversation quality is high, and the best posts are a blissful union of good writing and free-wheeling kink.

The only problem is that it’s anonymous and short-term - you never get to know the person writing the words on the other side of the screen. 

This is where OA comes in. I’m looking for a long-term connection where we care about the real us, talk about everything and anything, and are endlessly curious and excited to find out more about each other, combined with an open discussion of our sexuality and the opportunity to reveal a side of us that few, if anyone, in our real lives has ever seen. 

You: clever, open-minded, generally successful in life, looking for something more. Physically pretty and fit/slender/petite.

Me: sociable, introspective, educated, and ambitious. Physically tall with a lean build. Attractive enough not to worry about the picture swap.

The ideal connection: regular communication (at least daily, but more at first, unless real life gets in the way as it often does); mutual attraction and excitement; thoughtful conversion about us, our relationships, our interests, and what’s going on in our lives; a shared optimism and positivity about life; a blend of seriousness and silliness.

Despite focusing on the sexual side a lot in this post, we don’t need to get into it right away. It’s far more interesting after we’ve got to know each other and feel excited by one another. 

If we click, let’s exchange pictures. After building up a lot of mutual trust, maybe we’ll exchange real names and identities. And perhaps, after making you sign an NDA and promise that the information will be treated as a state secret, I’ll eventually tell you my dpp username…