Im going to try and out it all out there and see what comes back. I’m 36, very masculine looking, strong body, body hair, beard, tall, I’ve been told handsome a time or two. I’m also bisexual and will occasionally have some more feminine ways about me. I would consider my at home relationship to be a dead bedroom both physically and emotionally. I am very in touch with my emotions and having shared vulnerability is important to me when it comes to a relationship of any kind. I am not afraid of opening up and letting the right people in. I think it’s very needed to form something intimate and satisfying.

I think being in a female led relationship is what’s best for me. In the outside world I’m very confident. I can be a little aggressive and quick to action and butt heads. Inside I have a lot of misplaced hurt from too much childhood trauma that refuses to be resolved. Letting things go where I can and deferring to a woman in charge has worked best in the past.

Sexually I’m a switch though I learn more submissive when I can. I don’t need someone to tick every single box, since there are many, but similar general desires need to be there. Not everything has to be about sex and kink all the time, but it is an important part of the relationship that can’t be ignored or minimized. When my sexual needs are regularly satisfied I very much enjoy hanging out, bantering, teasing, and enjoying each other’s company. I’m very cuddly when everything in the world is set right.

Here is the part where I’m likely to lose some people. Physically I don’t care what someone looks like all that much. I tend to prefer curvy and my age or older. Ultimately it’s someone’s mind and shared interests that will catch my attention. So down to the kinks. Most of the general BDSM things are enjoyed or wanted so I’ll list the common ones. I’m a switch so this list applies both in giving and receiving when possible. Power exchange, orgasm control, degradation, anal, spitting, spanking, biting, ruining, consensual forced play, sounding, watersports, breastfeeding. Many more but I don’t think a truly exhaustive list is needed.

At the core of everything it’s all about connection. These are very personal, intimate, and important to be for one reason or another. Dynamically, I am very comfortable being called daddy as well as calling my partner mommy or a similar title with the right vibe. Happy to discuss any of it. My post is getting long enough and I feel I’ve shown enough of myself upfront for anyone that might be interested. Thanks for reading.