Good morning - or afternoon or evening.

It’s a wet, slightly windy Sunday morning here in the northwest of the UK, and I’m sitting on the sofa, dog on one side of me and cat on the other, whilst my wife and the kids are still asleep. I’ve got about another 2 hours or so of this until I lose the peace, so thought I’d put this time to good use and actually post, rather than just read.

I’m 43 years old and have been married for 20 years. I have two wonderful kids, a job I love, and, like many of us here, everything seems great from the outside. The reality is very different. My wife no longer wants sex or intimacy of any kind. She says it’s a natural part of life and I should just accept it that, once you pass 40, that’s it. She tells me that it’s normal and I should take up golf or something and channel my energy that way. She then goes back to Instagram, and the discussion is closed.

But that’s not me.

I’m 5’10, with short, greying hair (which I actually love!), browny-green eyes, and the brawny rugby player build that I’ve managed to keep hold of since my university days. I work from home most of the time, but I do sometimes venture into one of my company’s offices when I’m particularly bored of staring at the walls in my home office.

When I’m not working or driving the kids around, I love to read scary stories and listen to scary podcasts, so if anyone out there has any recommendations, I’m all ears. I also like to spend time in the great outdoors, walking the dog as much as I can. I really like the simple things, if I’m honest.

I’m looking for someone who I can be myself with and talk about the mundane day-to-day stuff as well as the more fun things that put a spring in your step and ignite that flame that so many of us here need to keep at an ember, rather than the full burn we so desire. I’m looking for someone who appreciates a drama-free life (there’s enough of that anyway) and is comfortable in who she is, what she wants, and where she’s going.

Age isn’t important to me, as I’m a connection person. As for my preferred type of woman, I really struggle to see past personality, so just bring yourself. That’s always more than enough.

Well, there’s my Sunday morning Hail Mary, so I will close by wishing each of you who have read this far a wonderful day and the best of luck on your search for more.