So… I’m a 38-year-old married dad of one with another one on the way. Not sure exactly why I’m here, because I’m actually quite happy in my marriage… but I am, and I’ve been wanting to post this message for a while now.

I’ve been with my wife for 15 years, married for 10. Until now, I’ve been completely faithful to her. I’m under no illusions that by simply posting this message, I am being unfaithful. I can only be honest and say that I don’t know how I’m going to feel should anything romantic/sexual develop, but I will be open about my feelings and will not resort to ghosting.

I love the intimacy of getting to know someone new, and I miss the rush of seeing a new message in my inbox. The teasing and the electricity. So much of my life is shared now, and I love that. But I want something that’s my own. Something that’s our own. I can’t deny that there’s something deeply alluring about the prospect of having a secret confidant known to nobody but ourselves. I believe that human connection is fundamental to human flourishing. Simply put, I hope we can make each other’s lives better.

With all that being said, my wife and children will always come first, so you must be ok with that. On my end, I will never treat you like you mean nothing to me, because I hope that won’t be true. I hope, all things going well, we end up meaning a great deal to one another.

Although I’ve never done this before, I know that I want a slow burn. Sending messages that toe the delicate line between innocent and inappropriate. If the sexy stuff develops, I believe that the build up will make it all the more gratifying. I’m happy to exchange SFW pics up front to make sure we’re attracted to one another, and to know who we’re talking to.

In terms of preferences, I only ask that you be between 30-50. Aside from that, I have none.

I’m 5’8’’, average build, strawberry blonde hair, bearded. I enjoy pretty much all sports, cooking, reading, writing, film & TV, walking my dog while listening to music. I want to learn more about gardening and growing herbs, vegetables etc. I enjoy intelligent conversation, but like being goofy too. I’m a materialist in the dialectical sense, rather than in the Madonna sense. Although you don’t have to be, if you’re in any way right wing, we will likely be wasting our time. I’m not religious, but neither am I antagonistic towards religious people.

If anything you see here interests you, feel free to reach out. I am extremely nervous about this, but I try hard to be kind and courteous to everyone.

Speak soon.

Edit: I’m located on the west coast of the US.