Helo. I don't know if my marriage is falling apart, or just is really difficult. But in any case, a friend said perhaps I should check out this sub and after some thought I think perhaps they are right.

Here's the short story - I am married (obviously), and whilst in general married life is fine (we are both great parents, we more or less enjoy day to day life) I wouldn't say I am happily married. Is neutrally married a thing?! About a decade ago my wife was diagnosed with a chronic disease, and it has totally changed her as a person. Our relationship has gone from being a passionate, fun, engaged relationship to one with none of those things. She now seems to find everything that happens to her in life a struggle, has become deeply antisocial, and our intimacy has completely fallen to the wayside. Now I want to say that I understand - life has dealt her a shit hand, and that sucks. I am doing my best to support her, and have done for the last decade or so. The thing is, in doing so it just doesn't leave any space in the relationship for me to feel like a valued, intelligent, sexy human being that someone wants to spend time with. i feel like I am some sort of support worker, father, but not a husband or partner. There's no space in the relationship for me to really be me, or to have feelings, especially difficult ones. I don't want to go into any more details right now, so i will leave it there.

So I am here - I am looking for someone to chat to about life, someone who appreciates me as a real, emotional, feeling human being. But also someone who wants to enjoy sex, and intimacy, and find some fun in that side of life. I don't really think I know how to explain what I am looking for or what I want any better than that, but I know my description is inadequate. I guess I just want to feel like a desirable, interesting and intelligent person for once?!

I am not sure how important it is to talk about interests, hobbies etc., but I like to read scifi and fantasy, I love music (especially that golden age of American indie rock - think touch and go records in the 90s, dinosaur jr, that sort of thing - metal, psychedelic stuff etc), I have a background in natural sciences and ecology, minor gamer. You know, normal sort of stuff.

I live in the UK (south east), but would be totally happy with something online if we manage to do the right things for each other.

If any of this sounds interesting to you, my DMs/chat is open.

EDIT: Off to a good start, typo in the title! That is meant to say alone, not along.